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When is it time to leave?
I have been dating Max for seven months and thought he was "the one." As our relationship progressed I began to see that our going out to party was more of "a time for him to get drunk." He drinks more than anyone I know, has to finish my drink, even if I have one swallow left, and has occassional blackouts. He also get's to a point that he will look at a bottle of alcohol, tell me how beautiful it is, look at it longingly and caress it. Accompanied with this is he has started to be verbally abusive to me when he dirnks a lot.  On one occassion specifically he was so mean to me at a club that one of the servers asked if I needed help. We went on an extended vacation with another couple a few weeks ago. A vacation that should have been fun and active was centered around the next bar and getting durnk every night for him. He went after me verbally three times in those ten nights out: calling me a ***** (I am not), getting jealous, loud and angry. Is it time to leave?  Problem is, when he isn't drinking he is the sweetest guy around. Recently he said he needs time to "think" because he is working through some things. Should I give him time or get out while the getting is good?
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4591205 tn?1410608774
run...run far and run fast.... u can't be in a healthy relationship with an addict they will always love their addiction more than you
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5039239 tn?1364028271
You are with an alcoholic, and when he drinks he gets abusive. He should have been honest with you from the start about his drinking problem. If you can get out, I would get out. Alcoholism is progressive, it's going to get worse. Protect yourself and leave him.
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209987 tn?1451939065
I concur. Been around them all my life...they never get better ( without help ) just worse. My dad died two years ago from his drinking...hubby and one brother are next.
Kind of makes me glad that my one son is diabetic...he can't drink, so won't succumb to alcoholism.
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