confused

[tke5768]

Hello all, I have been with an alcoholic for 13yrs, however I have a very interesting story. My husband does not drink very often or not at all. He quit 4yrs ago when our son was born and I was going to leave as he was on xanax, & alcohol & fell asleep while my little boy was crawling on the floor & I walked in and my husband was passed out. We have been to counseling & we are still trying to go to counseling, however he has lost his job in May and we all know about the economy these days. I work at my sons school as a para & do not get paid in the summer. I left a 32,000 dollar a yr job to be with my son more as it was to stressful. So needless to say no Medical insurance. So I am now looking for an AA, & an alanon to attend as I realize this is free. I have issues of my own. I have general anxiety disorder, & have panic attacks that lead to severe health anxiety, so you can imagine how not having med insurance has been.... I also have read  the co-dependent no more book. I truly think that book was written for me specifically. Obviously since he doesn't drink he still has the issues and I am trying so hard to find help so I do not leave him, or altleast detach from trying to stop him from his feelings... thanks for reading my summed up story.

[boogieman]

hello. you are on the right path. you will find answers through alanon and even some of the other posts here. chemical dependency is a condition that manifests in many ways, with the actual chemical use being but a symptom. you seem to have already realized that and as such are well on your way to a solution. you can't fix your husband or anyone else, but you can acquire the tools and knowledge to help him begin to fix himself. the book you mentioned is a good resource as well. please don't hesitate to ask if you have any questions or concerns. take care,  gm