mean while sober, nice when drunk

you always hear about the mean drunk that does crazy things and then when they sober up the apologize.  My situation is the opposite.  When my husband is drunk (every night 5pm-midnight at the least, about 2 half gallons of whisky and 30 beers per week) he tells me how much he loves me and he doesnt understand why we fight so much, but as soon as he sobers up he is terrible to me, he acts like I owe him something, he makes me do everything like cook, clean, wash his laundry... in some sort of twisted way of proving my loyalty to him.  It is just odd.  so basically I spend my day in hell with him nasty and by 5pm when I am done with it all he turns it around and is super nice (no intimacy since he cant by the time the kids go to bed as he is too drunk and things dont work properly).  has anyone else had this opposite situation?  I keep looking for things as this is a sign of alcoholism and I see many of our problems on those sites, but I dont see this so I am just thinking I get the true hatred while sober and just need to get the heck out!  

[tschock]

An alcoholic is an alcoholic...some just show it differently.

Obviously your husband can't "handle" things while sober...he needs help...ASAP!
He may be acting like a jerk when sober because of withdrawal.

I've had many alcoholics in my life, and they all react differently.
My hubby is all over me when drunk too...and he ignores me when he's sober...which is better than being yelled at I guess.
He's also very serious when sober...and more lax when drunk...but most are.
My dad used to give me his credit card and stuff like that when drunk...then  either avoid us or get nasty when sober.
If you ticked him off when he was drinking he would get mean...but otherwise he just sat around crying and stuff.

They say that an alcoholic will show their "true self " when drunk...so however your hubby acts when drunk is the way he is or wants to be...and he's a stranger even to himself when sober.