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wive just out of rehab and has relapsed

I love my wife but she hates me for not helping her with her addication
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Hi. Would love to help, but could you elaborate more on this subject. Thank you.
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I would love to help you too, but can you please explain further.
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i have been going to aa and al anon for help. i am als an alcoholic in recovery many years. my wife is active and just out of rehab. life is hell right now for me and my teenage girls. I know that my wife has to hit her bottom or she may never find recovery. I have spoken to my aa sponsor and he tells me to detach with love. I find it very hard to do. my girls are upset with me for trying again. I am trying to get them to ala teen. there are not many of these meetings in my area. I have taken the car keys away from her and she did get very angry. I said I would never forgive myself if you got killed or killed someone else while drinking and driving. I know you must hit bottom, but how much more can I take with my girls. looking for suggestions.
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Dealing with alcohol addiction is a real rough situation. My heart goes out to your whole family! Sweetheart you are going to have to have a heart to heart with your wife. You talk about your kids the way a father should, because they are witnessing all if this. Taking away love is not gonna stop the situation, support is the key if you love this woman. I know is hard, and if you can't deal with it anymore you need to get serious help so you can have for family back. It sounds like you care and i know if you just give up you will blame yourself in the end. So keep trying.

I'm here if you ever need support, Lexis.
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Thanks Lex. Woke up this morning and she is willing to go to our girls games today. AA suggests no enabling and no provoking and there is a third which slips my mind at the moment. I still have hope and pray for her every day. I know the signs in her when see wants to drink and I see them now. I asked god today to help me get through today without getting angry, resentful and acting out as the victum with her just for today. I speak to her parents often and her dad is quite depressed. I told him and his wife to try al anon for themselves. They are at the point of cutting her off. I told him the time has come to do that, and to state to her that they still love her but hate what she has become. What a roller coaster ride. With being so close to her it hurts deeply witnessing her progression. When she is not drinking and she brings up recovery, I just discuss my experience on how I got sober and how I am dealing with this know. Sometimes I see hope and she agrees to go to a meeting and get a sponsor,but when meeting time comes she finds an excuse not to go. She will ask me wher are you going and I tell her a meeting so I can stay sober. This is how it works. Sometimes she will ask how meeting was and I will tell her,but when she does not ask I do not bring it up.
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