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Are your drunk thoughts the real you?

I do not drink very often but maybe once a month.  Every one in awhile I get too drunk and say really mean things to my boyfriend.  He believes that it's my true feelings that are coming out and that's how i feel about him.  I don't feel thats true, but I could be wrong.

I need help, because I feel like I'm a different person when I drink and it's ruining my relationships.
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Reacting overly dramatic to something would be more like what you could expect. If you can not handle yourself when you drink the you should consider not drinking so much or not drinking at all. If it is your goal to get plastard everytime you drink then you have something going on that could lead you to being a serious alcoholic. Alcoholism is a hard road to travel down. Take it from someone who knows.

When I was 38 I was diagnosed with end stage cirrhosis of the liver. Wanna guess what End Stage means? It can happen to anybody!
Randy
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My advice is to figure out what is driving those thoughts of yours while you are sober.  Lastly, read and reread the last paragraph of what rpoo wrote.  That is the reality of drinking......sara
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i agree w/my 2 cohorts here and will add if u have a good man u'd best stop the drinking and the unkind words.....for someday soon he may tire of it and leave.....and sara and i can attest to the fact that good men are very hard to come by in this day and age......no throwing of honeypots from u RPoohBear!:)
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As much as I tried I couldn't be a "nice guy" when I drank too much and like you, that behavior caused some problems with my wife, friends and family.  Today I stay sober and have good relationships.  I can be loving, nurturing, caring and respectful of other peoples feelings.  When I look back I am amazed at how I used to choose booze and getting drunk over having loving and happy relationships.

Like the others said a good man is hard to find.  I know I'm already taken.  LOL!!!!!!!!

God Bless!
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Since both you and rpoo are taken ibizan and i will just continue to have our dogs and cats!!  lol
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I've threatened to have a tee-shirt printed that would say The Good Men are Taken,Married Gay or Dead!They would sell by the billions and sarah u and i could quit this working stuff buy our own island and live happily ever after with TONS of rescued animals........ibizan and sarah doolittle...and we would do very little!:)just clean up after lounge around with and feed the animals!sure wish u lived closer......this weekend i'm doing my annual pj party/wash a dog event......i run the garden hose all the way 2 the backyard....water is lukewarm,shampoo up the dogs and rinse down.....they run around in this heat and air dry and i have a pair of pj's on that need to be laundered...we all get wet clean cool down and have a doggone good time!they are 2 big to lift in/out of tub and they stiffen up and water all over the floor!
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You two crack me up!!!
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That sounds like a blast!!  The last time Cali had a bath it was bathing suit on and in the shower with her!!

The island thing sounds like heaven to me.  Could you imagine all the beagles baying and the Greys galloping!!
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Well I was thinking at first I wanna go to the island too but then I thought about it and nobody has mention anything about doing the poop scoopin! Im staying home!
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Sarah we will be the Doolittle Sisters on the island and Rpoohbear and Punkinhead will b the PoopPatrol Boys!U boys would be well compensated for making the entire island turdfree!:)
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Turdfree huh?  Does that mean I a can't stay?  Ma used to call me a "little sh*t" when I was causing trouble.  LOL!!!!  Today I get to be a "Big sh*t"  HA HA HA !!
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does that mean u r a big **** and hafta clean ur ownself up?:)or would u like to stay and keep it simple just scooping poop to ensure cleanliness and good orderly direction on the island????Ur wife and Mrs.RPoohbear have pm'd me and told me that they'd be relieved if u gave them both a vacation and did long hard turdtime on the island!!!!:)))))))))))))))))))))))
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she didnt ask if she had a drinking problem and she only drinks once a month...im so sick of these AA ppl who tell you alll about drinking and what it does to you 20 years from now when someone asks a simple question....you were drunk sweetheart...tell your bf to get over it....that drunk words are sober thoughts BS is untrue...sometimes ppl get too messed up....i dont know why ppl automatically resort to alcoholic.
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Well I've seen plenty of people drink on occasion and don't ruin their essential relationships in the process. Most don't even say one mean thing to another, and I am talking strictly normal, social drinkers. Just a thought.

Now, I'm not of that variety. From best friends to strangers, when I drank my chest puffed out and my blood began to boil and I was basically a ticking time bomb to those around me. Especially ones that I loved. Looking back, I felt extremely distressed about just about everything. And drinking heightened those feelings and I exploded on anyone in my path. Have you been stressed out or feeling inconsolable lately? What goes on in our hearts and minds in our waking day will come out tenfold when we are drunk. I can't tell you you have a problem, I can only suggest possibly looking at yourself and what is going on in your life. As I said, "normal" drinkers don't put others through that kind of verbal abuse. I can assure you, people will only take terrible treatment for so long before they walk away, it happened to me multiple times. I wish you the best.
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AA people? I think you were the only one in thread to bring it up. The wonderful thing about MedHelp Bryan is that everyone is free to voice their opinion as long as they are being respectful of others and surely in your comment you didn't mean any disrespect to anyone right?

You did however offer helpful advice that I'm sure would have been useful a year ago when the post was made. Good job sir and welcome to MedHelp!

Randy
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I consider myself blessed to have a son like u...I really do.....such style class and a cool haircut have u!and good sobriety too!:)
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