Hi All,
I just wanted to post in here to gain some advice and some support. I am an alcoholic and I would say borderline sex-aholic. Here is my story as I write to you, drinking what I hope will be my last vodka tonic at my after work drinking hideaway.
I have lived many lives and worked many jobs, mostly pretty successful and/or decently lucrative. In college I drank as a binge drinker., not every night, but when we drank we went 12, 15, 18, 20 beers deep into a day and or night party/event day. Once out of college I drank socially for the longest time as a weekend warrior type. 8 beers on friday, 10 beers on saturday, maybe a few on sunday etc. As time progressed, started drinking more days of the week. like an avg week was like this:
Mon: None
Tues: Glass of wine or 2
Wed: 4 bourbons and coke
Thur: 6 beers
Fri: 8-10 Beers
Sat: 10-12 Beers
Sun: None
Now moving forward to the last several years, I have progressively gotten worse. This week for instance was as follows:
Mon: None
Tues: 7 Beers
Wed: 4 Vodka Tonics at Happy Hour, 4 Glasses of Wine after
Thur: 12 Beers
Fri: 18 Beers
Sat: 12 Beers and 4 Yager Bombs
Sun: 18 Beers.
As I sit here now, I am at my local hideaway drinking a vodka tonic. I am ready to change but I am so scared. I have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter who I know will soon be picking up on daddy's issues and behaviors. My wife has her gripes (rightfully so!!!!!!!!!) but I know that even she has no idea how much I actually drink, as I hide about half of it from her.
Some of my behavior:
*Hidden Vodka
*Hidden Beer
*Extra mini-bottles in jackets/pants when we go to functions
*Sneaking around at bars/restaurants to take shots when I am 'going to the restroom or taking a phone call'
*emotional breakdowns that are totally alcohol induced
*Having to have a "trash round up" every morning to find all of my empties etc. and discard of them away from our house.
*Knowing I am a good dad to my daughter as far as my interaction and treatment to her
*knowing I was a good husband and I still am as long as I am not drinking. I am not physically abusive by any means, but I know that when I am drinking, my behavior/actions/and companionship I provide is not what it should be for my wife. I love her, but my relationship with alcohol is taking me over.
*Drunkeness leading me to the strip clubs to blow money on immediate attention etc.
i could go on and on, but I know a lot of you have heard it so many times.
I want to quit, I need to quit. I have to quit.
How do I quit?
I am Desperate!