Hi, its very sad to hear progression of your wife, what i feel from this post is that your wife seems to be to addicted to alcohol, where she may be finding it too difficult to leave it, since she has also a family background where most of them use to drink or got a bad habit, thatswhy it can be hereditary at her part, i feel you need to take her to some good counselor or a rehab center to help her to come out of this problem, where she is not only destroying her own life but overall marital life too. Mind it it will be too difficult on her part to give up this addiction, you need to be on her side to help her to recover faster.
Sorry to hear your wifes drinking is getting out of control. She might not listen to you with your concerns for her drinking problem. We alcoholics quit when we want to. I wouldn't give up though. If she doesn't think she has a drinking problem then why does she always drink. Why not just quit, being it bothers you. Going away drinking with someone else would be a major concern to me also. Is she willing to give up her marriage for her drinking and her drinking buddy. Try being firmer with her, Be direct and don't listen to her reasons why she should drink. She is an alcoholic.
Hi ESummers.. Welcome to the forum.. I'm very sorry to say that it is not you who are lost it is your wife, Yes she has a drinking problem.. I myself, I'm a addict in recovery with many of those years consuming alcohol. Your wife is the one that has to want to quit drinking, she is the only one that can do it. Most of us that are on a addictive path have to hit bottom our we get a heath scare our something happens in our personal life that is so devastating it wakes us up. others loose everything to their disease.. It is very serious.. I would suggest you look up the group Al Anon. it is a support group made up of family members that have gone thru it with loved ones our are going thru it like you.. My heart goes out to you as you are young into your marriage. I hope you look up educate yourself on alcoholism and addiction ok.. Read the forum,many times you find yourself reading anothers story and it is like reading about you and your life. people have made comments on these that can be very helpful. I'm sure others will be along for support. Remember her brain is not working like yours for it is under the influence.. alcohol does not just go away every 10 hours it builds as you drink everyday.. also your tolerance goes up just like with other drugs this is when you run into liver damage and these sort of things.. read educate.. do not enable her in her drinking but support her when she is sober.. I wish you well. lesa