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Need to quit drinking

I am in my thirties.   My biggest problem in my life is my drinking.  I am writing this today because I have to stop drinking.  I don't want to have to stop drinking, but I have to stop.  I don't have an off button when it comes to alcohol.  I judge an evening of drinking based on if I can remember the night before or not.  I blackout a lot.  I tell myself to stop after two, but can't.  I try to hide my drinking from my husband and even my daughter comments on my wine breath sometimes.  My husband has major issues with my drinking.  I came here for support.  I have gone to counselors in the past and AA meetings.  I guess I have never been 100% to quitting before.  I called into work today because I have the "flu".  I actually just drank so much that I don't remember going to bed and was way to hung to even attempt to go in. It's been years since I have called into work cause of drinking.  I can tell that it is getting worse.  I need this to STOP!!!!!!  Are there people out there to support me through this?  
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Im in the same boat and will def try to support you! I've let my kids down a bunch by drinking. I have to beat this! I have to!
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Maybe we can help each other.  I always say that I should stop, but then don't.  I don't drink every day, but probably 3-4 tx week.  It's the loss of control when I drink that gets me into trouble. I don't know how to not drink though, especially when we go out.
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The way to stop drinking is to not take that first drink.
Pretty straight forward and sounds easy enough but so many of us cant seem to do that.

You need accountability.
AA is a good place for some, one on one counseling whether an addictionoligist, pastor friend etc. some one to answer to and who will lend moral support.

If you cant do it on your own, get into a rehab. See a Dr. if necessary to advise you on how to go aboot this.
You can get help here but you sound like you need a pro. to get you on the right track.
I hope you make it, it is a very good feeling to get that monkey off of your back!

Good luck to you both.
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I was 38 when I got cirrhosis, I sure wish I would have tried harder to quit. Life is a whole lot different now. Wonderful in ways because after all those years of drinking I am finally sober for almost three years! Yay me!

Worse in ways that I must have blood work every 3 months to monitor if my condition is getting worse, an ultra sound of my liver every 6 months to see if I have liver cancer (HCC). I have a lifting restriction of 20lbs because I could break a blood vessel (varices) due to restricted blood flow through the liver (portal hypertension) and hemorrhage to death. Registered with the transplant center just in case. The list goes on but I'm sure you get the point.

I was just the exact same way, once I drank one I wasn't going stopping until I was drunk. I wonder if either of you drink as much as I did..

A couple of interesting facts are that:

Studies show that it takes a woman less alcoholic drinks to develop alcoholic liver disease than men.

Symptoms of cirrhosis don't normally manifest until a person has reached the final stage of cirrhosis, so be sure to get your annual physical and be honest with your doctor. A simple blood test can save your life.

I will be more than glad to offer any support you need and I’ll even omit anything else about cirrhosis, I just wanted you both to realize it’s very real and it happens to millions every year.

You are both on the right track and I wish you the very best with your sobriety! Take care.

Randy
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Hi Randy,
  Thank you for sharing with me.  I do have annual blood work every year and so far everything has come back normal.  I have discussed with my Dr. that I drink more than I should, but that was it.
  On the outside I have the ideal life.  Great husband, three beautiful kids.  I run marathons and work part time.  I don't drink every day, but I do think about it every day.  I have embarrassed myself and my husband by getting smashed many, many times. At events where getting smashed should not happen.  If I can go a weekend without blacking out I'm proud of myself.  Right out of college I had a bad year with drinking where I was starting to do it in the mornings, etc.  I would hide vodka bottles and such.....  
Since becoming a mom I have not been as bad as before, but I still have an alcohol problem.  I see it getting worse and I know I should stop for my marriage, children and my health.  Today will be day 2 of not drinking.  This will be the hardest thing I have done.  Just yesterday a girlfriend asked me about a wine tasting because she said I was her go to girl for good wine....  How am I going to socialize without drinking?  The idea scares me to death!
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Thank you Randy for your words of encouragement. I started drinking in highschool and immediately fell in love with it. It has been a rocky relationship. It has caused me to embarrass my family and friends. I have done things that I would NEVER even consider when sober. I have a caring husband and 4 children. I got a DUI in 2009. It was very embarrassing.   That's just one of many things!  I am getting my act together as far as seeing a very good therapist. I do have a love affair with wine. I am on day 2 and already have thought about drinking several times. I worked out for an hour and  did a yoga class.  As I was leaving the gym the fight inside my head began. All the reason why I deserve one drink of wine tonight. And all the reasons I should stay away from it!  I have told myself that I can drink a just have one maybe two drinks that's all.. That may last a few days even a week. I always end up buying a bottle and drinking it. I can't drink more then that. I am not very large and it does not take me more then  3 drinks to be drunk. I've decided to try some new things in the evenings when the urge is the strongest. My husband will  be hands on with our boys and I am going to go to different support groups. Not just AA, I was sexually assaulted in high school ,  I am going to go to a support group for that. I'm going to hit up a bible study at some random church. I'm going to go to a support group for anything else I can think of that might pertain to me. My son has Type 1 diabetes, I am going to go to a support group for that. If I can be busy every night for 30 days there is a much better chance I won't take the first drink. Otherwise, once I have done my nightly responsibilities I am a free women and wine and facebook will be calling me.  That is my pattern. I've asked my husband to support me and help me get through the nights before. It didn't work out. I think he is going to take it more serious and support me this time. He said we can take the boy's swimming one night and I can workout while they swim. I know I have rambled on and on. Thanks for the support. and runner I soooo know where you  are I am right there with you. I hope you find a path too. I'll be on everyday so feel free to message me. I hope that we can help each other. I am taking it one day at a time it's just that if I fail to plan I may as well plan to fail.
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and thank you addict3 very much appreciate the support! :)
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U've gotten some xcellent advice here and all i can add is u have to be 150% @ quitting, and think @ this...if u put as much energy into ur recovery as u did  w/ur  drinking....just think of what u would become!how old is ur daughter?r u in jeopardy of losing ur job?how much  longer do u think ur husband will put up w/the drinking?
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Hi everyone,
I am on day 3 of being sober.  That sounds so pathetic to say, but it's a big deal.  I can't remember the last time I went a Fri and Sat night without drinking. (except when I was pregnant)  My husband has been very supportive!  He did have two beers himself this Sat night, while cooking out burgers, which pissed me off a bit, but  I had perrier lemon water in a glass and felt fine.  Of course my husband walked in and freaked cause at first he thought I had a vodka tonic poured.  Getting through this weekend wasn't that tough.  The real test will be in the next week to come.  I have an event with some girlfriends coming up this week and we have dinner at some friends this upcoming Sat.  Dinner that my friend has been saving a bottle of wine for us to share.....  She is a good friend, my wine drinking buddy though, but I'm just going to tell her I've made this decision and she has to back me up!  The other challenge will be when my hubby is gone late for work and I'm home with the kids by myself.  It's usually dinner time I make a cocktail and enjoy some tv while making dinner. That is when I get into trouble cause a glass or two of wine turns into the whole bottle plus some at times.  When my off switch in stuck on "on".....
I did find a great site online, "thesobrietysolution.com.  Had some great info on there.  It's a 30 sobriety solution method, a bit pricey though so I'm going to wait to see if I struggle.  I'm amazed at the time I've spent telling myself not to think about not drinking.  I truly have to relearn how to socialize and live without alcohol.  It was so much a part of my life.  We were just invited to a birthday party for a friend of ours.  A big group of drinkers, with dinner and bar hops.  Needless to say I told my husband NO WAY was I going to put myself in that kind of situation.  He agreed!
I have to say and I know it hasn't been that long, but I can feel my husbands attitude towards me change already.  I've hurt him so much in the past that I feel like I owe him this much.  Even though I think about not drinking, I'm not thinking of drinking, if that makes sense......
So yeah for day 3 and tomorrow I hope to say yeah to day 4!  Thanks for reading!
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Congratulations on three days!
It was next to impossible for me to go three days until I finally quit. I know that is tough but after some time it will be less stressfull.

Hang tough! Keep your guard up! You can do this!
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does ur hub have an alcohol problem?if not....there ARE those who can have 2 drinks and stop........they have OFF switch!u know u don't have one....so focus on U!sounds like u got a good first start!i've NEVER had an OFF switch...never will...and i totally have had to accept that!
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Yes its very hard to stop when you are completely addicted with drinking habit but there is a way, consult with doctor, do yoga and medication it will surely help you to come out from the addiction.
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