Question?

[rooftrash]

Ok.My first question is how many of you are in recovery and live with an alcoholic spouse or family member?I am sober right now but still not too strong.strong enough to live in a home where there is always alcohol.
How do you deal with that kind of temptation? I have had people in meetings tell me to actually leave my wife!Yea right.

[DebM412]

I am happy that you are able to be around your family and friends while they drink. I refuse to. My sponsor and my group at AA told me to stay away from any situation where there was drinking. I have lived with this and still do. I do go out to restaurants, I went to my company Christmas party last year where others were drinking. I am not associating with the people that are drinking because like you said there is nothing in common with them. Just so you know people are different and just because you are comfortable around it does not mean others have to be also. Please remember sobriety is different for everyone.  

[011207]

I am clean 10 years.  My husband is an active drinker so are most of my friends and family members.  Even when I was only 1 day clean, I never asked nor expected anyone to change their lifestyule because I had a problem.  It was MY problem and I had to deal with it accordingly.
I don't and haven't since I've goten sober, put myself in situations where I know I will be uncomfortable although after a while that goes away and you no longer think about drinking. I did change a lot of my friends because I found that if you took the drinks away we had very little in common.
If you are steadfast in your recovery and are doing the right thing and are working the steps and are in contact with a sponsor or support group eventually you willbe able to be around alcohol without temptation BUT if that is not where ytou are right now you must make a decision.
IF your wife is an alcoholic not jsut someone who drinks, I suggest al a non.  I also suggest you making it clear that there is to be no liquor in the house whatsoever but if she has a problem I don't know how that will work.  You might need to separeate.  Is she willing to get help?  If not, you have to put you and your sobriety first I'm sorry to say.

[DebM412]

Well, I am almost at 2 years of sobriety and I cannot and will not be around family or friends that use alcohol. Last March my husbands cousin was getting married in another state. There was going to be alcohol at the wedding and his family drinks!! Since his Mother is a witch and we don't talk I did not go because I knew too well that I would be drinking to cope with this. So I am not telling you to leave your wife but you should keep the alcohol out of the house.