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Re: social situations; what to do?
Since I'm on the road tor recovery and drinking doesn't appear to be an option; what are your views regarding social situations where alcohol is served? Basically I'm very weak if everyone is looped having a good time and of course I'll want to jump in on the fun. Since I'm new to the whole sober scene, I really fear how to act or what to say. I mean, I don't want to stay home all my life, but believe this will be my biggest challenge. I can get caught up in the excitement quite easily which could be very depressing in the aftermath.
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yes we r vintage girl!oh boi Marilyn!Eddie woulda dug her!my fav in Addams family...Lurch....UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU RANNNNNNNNNNNNNNGGG?????????whats that say bout me?
Eddie Haskell! You people are OLD!! hahahahahahhahaha But what the hell am I saying, I wanted to be Marilyn from the Munsters. I thought it would be soo cool to have an aunt and uncle like Lillian and Herman although I would have passed on the cousin Eddie. Of course I would have loved to hang out in Grandpa's basement. I think thats the real reason I liked the Munsters. But I enjoyed the Addams Family much better. What does that say about me??? 'evil'
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betchur smirking in wardly for not partaking and outwardly in silence at these poor unfortunates.....it was what u/we/I used to look and feel like!I LOVED Eddie H...he was my role model!
Well, the folks here are complaining about being hung over from last nights work party;-)
Guess, I was smart for once. Eddie Haskell should have been shot; bad boy!
Guess, I was smart for once. Eddie Haskell should have been shot; bad boy!
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i used to b the bad influence on childhood friends!my friends would wail my parents think ur soo good...kinda like Eddie Haskell .yes let others have our hangovers,blackouts and ohmigod i really made a fooll outta myself feeling!we took our health 4 granted when drinking..now sober 2 guard it better!
The plan is I'm missing the work party today by design; no reason to go. Easy solution. They can have their hang - overs Friday. I'm sure somebody will do something strange and talk of the office later.
uberadtx - childhood friends are the worse influence on me normally. Have not thought of a reward; good health is decent enough!
uberadtx - childhood friends are the worse influence on me normally. Have not thought of a reward; good health is decent enough!
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enjoy hawaii over the holly-daze.....service others here with ur comments...any other place u can research and i know u'll come up with a plan!:))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I'm going to Hawaii this and never returning; ur... um until after the new year. "Mom and dad - you're on your own; enjoy!"
Your loving son,
-dark
ibizan - ..."holly-daze balls"... I can service others? Never thought of it that way? :-)
Your loving son,
-dark
ibizan - ..."holly-daze balls"... I can service others? Never thought of it that way? :-)
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holidays will b weird 4 u this year.....but quite the gift 2 urself and family...a sober u!i look at christmas as another thanksgiving...2 b gr8tful for all i have and to be of service to others..like on this forum..and darkboi u gotta lot good things to say that i know help others.....we'll keep the holly-daze balls rollin here and we won't b in a daze!:))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Jammies aren't an option; besides don't own any. I don't wear sweats to the store either. Sweats at home, yes ..it's cold here in Seattle now or getting there.
Tigrai - Ciggs / coffee might be good enough for now; wow - you get up about the same time I do.
uberadtx - Thank you, but really don't think I'm deserving yet of anything. I don't trust myself in social situations or alone for that matter. Yes, it's great to feel good in the morning and productive. Actually I hate the holidays for various reasons, this year might be the worst. Most of my friends would not get sloppy drunk or myself (usually) for that matter, but this whole drinking thing has been going on too long, in my case. It's more of a health issue and maintaining. I don't think people actually remember drunk conversations; do they? Silly at the time tho, yet meaninless...
Again, everything is centered around alcohol at parties or that's my perception.
Tigrai - Ciggs / coffee might be good enough for now; wow - you get up about the same time I do.
uberadtx - Thank you, but really don't think I'm deserving yet of anything. I don't trust myself in social situations or alone for that matter. Yes, it's great to feel good in the morning and productive. Actually I hate the holidays for various reasons, this year might be the worst. Most of my friends would not get sloppy drunk or myself (usually) for that matter, but this whole drinking thing has been going on too long, in my case. It's more of a health issue and maintaining. I don't think people actually remember drunk conversations; do they? Silly at the time tho, yet meaninless...
Again, everything is centered around alcohol at parties or that's my perception.
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tigrai...i LOVE to get in my jams or sweats when i come home from work and am with my 4 legged kids!some think my work clothes look like dressy jams but I am a blue horse from the Emerald City!glad we make u laff....takes 14 facial muscles 2 smile and 72 2 frown.Uber-oh that dark man does reward himself with his love for techno music!he has TONS doncha darkboi?For the first 2 years of my sobriety holidays were very different,almost boring minus the drink but better than the hangovers,blackouts and inabilty to do anything the next day aside from lying on sofa feeling like run over by mack truck.Now holidays 2 me are like feeling the gratitude of being sober,counting my blessings and being with those i treasure....family.....friends.....and i've learned in sobriety who TRUE friends r for in the past all i had were drinking/drugging buds.On the holidays i will b here and making the best holidays for my 89 yr.old mother,Second year of holidays minus father,oh how w e miss him!He LOVED the holidays and having all of his kids,grankids and gre8t grankids roun dhim.
Please reward yourself!!! You have accomplished soo much and you truly deserve something fun! And you know something, your perception is right on. Alcohol makes the party go round. Most people don't realize how much they enjoy that drink or those drinks for that matter. I went to a Christmas party last year that involved an open bar with my friends. Believe me childhood friends can drink something fierce. Everyone had drinks and the party was fun but then everyone was drunk and the conversations and behaviors devolved. Watching drunk people or people you love get sloppy and stupid is kinda sad. The talking and laughing wasn't even making sense anymore even to them. I left that party grateful to be sober and woke up the next day feeling good and productive. It took me a long time to get to that point but it happens. And I wish that for you honestly. The holidays are coming and they can be soo stressful for tons of reasons. I will be here often!
I live in my "jammies".. i have about 30 pairs...I live in them even more now..im not drinking. I have been known to go out in them...I think i might have been pissed at the time...Hope you's are all well' ..things are ok with me ...could still go a bottle ..even though its 5.15 am...but coffee an nicotine will have to do for now.I love to read your messages sometimes they are so funny.
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hahaha...i love my funky dressy wearable art for day pj's!and oh yes....when newly sober and the funs goin on it trips the gottagetabuzz switch in head....today if i'm round a drunk person they smell bad,act like ***...and i say hey Mary that WAS u in the day!
I'm USUALLY smart about not driving and memory isn't all that bad normally after drinking either, but sometimes. Yes, I can get very rude and 'mouthy' with people under the influence, but not always. And I don't normally have a problem saying no to about anything, but when I see people having the time of their lives and laughing their ***** off, that's where I want to join in.
The 70's were ok, but I didn't wear PJs at all back then;-)
The 70's were ok, but I didn't wear PJs at all back then;-)
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ur rewards...i c this 2...are the no hangovers, no sneak using wakin gup in morn and remembering what u did the nite b4,remembering driving home....wearable art clothing is funky stuff loose flowy with hand painted designs on them or left plain organic fibers..like one of my clients sed u look like u never left the 70's!those were the best of times..sometimes i still retreat 2 them in my head..minus all the partying!he also sed reason i been working here this long is that boss lets me come 2 work in my pajamas..lil truth there!
Yeah, still doing good and feel almost too good; meaning haven't felt this great maybe for 30 years. Serious. Blood test Thursday for annual check up. The work party I going to pass, just not ready and/or interested actually. Maybe it's me, but booze seems to be the center of attraction at those engagements; maybe that's my perception; dunno.
Ub - not sure to be deserving of any 'reward' quite yet, I'm still working on the 'new me' and changing my life style; it still seems awkward, but nice not having hang over/ headache etc. Drinking in parking lot in middle of day; had no problem with, but no tears, maybe that's disturbing.
ib - Wearable art clothing? Possibly; just trying to survive and not go back to old ways which wasn't working anymore. Maybe it never worked?
Day 22 and thanks for comments!
Ub - not sure to be deserving of any 'reward' quite yet, I'm still working on the 'new me' and changing my life style; it still seems awkward, but nice not having hang over/ headache etc. Drinking in parking lot in middle of day; had no problem with, but no tears, maybe that's disturbing.
ib - Wearable art clothing? Possibly; just trying to survive and not go back to old ways which wasn't working anymore. Maybe it never worked?
Day 22 and thanks for comments!
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Not silly dear!i 2 love good movies,books,second addiction wearable art clothing....it is SO GOOD/HEALTHY 2 have that fear of alcohol early in the game and for as long as ur inner voice says don't need 2 go there!gr8t comments to dark who is doing good!
Congratulations on 21 days! Imagine that! I'm so glad you are passing up on your work party. I admire your healthy fear, some people don't have that. When I was first sober, I was petrified of all things normal. I was starting to find out what my triggers were and I couldn't believe it. I was an equal opportunity drinker, that is I drank because I was happy and I drank because I was upset. I knew no boundaries when it came to alcohol. I suddenly realized that I didn't want to be on my knees in the middle of the day in some shopping center parking lot in tears. That was my last drunk. Classy right? So what is your reward for all your hard work? You need to nourish your spirit with something fun. You should plan on treating yourself. I love movies and books and video games. silly right? But it lets my inner child come out and play. I hope you let your child come out and celebrate with you its soo important.
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trust ur intuition..it is telling u to not attend for a reason.no need 2 place self in situations ur anxious about...uncertain..uncomfortable.No need a'tall!day 21 is sober fun!yeehah!
Day 21 clean, I don't want to to places where alcohol is served. I'm doing so well and don't want to blow it.
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its a play it by ear situation by situation.....ur being wise......work party's can be real trips...people can and do usually make donkeys butts of themselves!r they having a dinner?i usually go for the food if its good.good friend of mine used to have big xmas party.Major foodfest potluck..it was divine! i went for the eating,then when it was done...all the boozers would start...and i went home!these people would come toasted,drunk...skinny bloodshot eyes..u know...not eat a thing!sure sign there!i don't have many alcohol sits to deal with anymore after 23 yrs.sober....have developed friends who don't drink or if so so rare!
Still going strong for day 20; think I'll pass on the work part this week. Yes, we all have choices, but it might be still hard to say no at this point and don't want slip-up this early. I've come too far and don't want to get depressed with the hypothetical of failing.
I'll mingle later,,, not sure when yet.
I'll mingle later,,, not sure when yet.
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