Update and testimony

[UnsureMS]

Just wanted to give a bit of a testimony. My husband has been the subject of my post many times in the past. He use to drink at an incredible rate. He would try to function and in the end his drinking lead to seizures and him making some extremely poor decisions in his life. He almost lost me. He did lose his vehicle and his job. He almost his children. My husbands life was in a ruin over drinking.

Then he has a couple of seizures and that scared him. He realized that god saved his life not once but three times in total. God also saved our marriage. Blessed him with a new job and a better vehicle. And slowly all the damage that his drinking caused is being repaired. The one promise that he made that he will never go back on is drinking it was the reason for all his pain and suffering. He realizes that now and is grateful God is giving him the strength he needs not to drink and to say no when offered.

I pray one day you will all be able to say you have found the same comfort in being sober. Amen

[march15oct5]

I'm happy to hear that your husband is doing so well.  Thank you for sharing your story.

[ibizan]

Yes ppl can change!talk is cheap!Action speaks louder than words!

[UnsureMS]

Like I said not saying there isn't times when leaving is right. Just believe that sometimes people are quick to jump to leaving or seperating. My husband and me went through all the abuse and the infidelity. So I do get sometimes it is time to leave. Just why do people think that leaving should always be permanent people can change. You just have to pray and trust in where The Lord leads you.

[ibizan]

I understand what you are saying...but when there is extreme emotional,verbal,mental and physical abuse, and often infidelity,the other can only take so much!PLUS the damaging effects of this upon the children should not go on for long.AND when you have one person working and supporting the entire family,this wears THIN as well!All to often I see the other stay,the drinking or drug use worsens and the kids begin to get horribly affected and begin to act out!I've been sober/clean 30 years now.My dayjob is substance abuse counselor.I've seen 2  GENERATIONS of families come thru our doors...where one stayed and became sicker than the other,and the kids are now following suit!

[UnsureMS]

I never once thought I stayed with him or had faith mistakingly. I feel sorry for those who are suffering with their drinking or addiction and their life partner (which is what you become when you marry) just leave them without offering some hope. What I mean is I get sometimes you have to leave a drunk or addict but it should be with an incentive. Either they change or the seperation will be for good. I just don't believe in marriage being easily broken.

So many times I read advice just saying enough is enough and to leave. When you marry you don't say until enough becomes enough. You say through better and through worse. Addiction/drinking is the worse....so leaving or permanent seperation shouldn't be a thought until it just gets to be to where there is no hope. No hope, you should even go through a temporary seperation before ending it for good. A partner should do all they can to try to help their love one before giving up for good.

[ibizan]

It is wonderful that your husband took responsibility for his problem and has made a comittment to not allow it to ruin him and your family life with him!That doesn't often happen..and its so good for as is most often the case there is one who stays with an active alcoholic/addict mistakenly thinking they can get him/her to change!:(AND they lose their sanity in the process!

[UnsureMS]

It was hard if anyone reads my past post, most thought I was crazy for not leaving him. But my love and faith is very strong. God brought us together and he is the only one that can split us up.

Drinking doesn't help anything or change anything. My husband said he use to use it to relax and get away from reality. He says now that all it did was make reality worse. He has come to find peace in a sober lifestyle.

[gyspy09]

Well that is awesome he learned his lesson.  I totally understand what it feels like to lose things..  my hubby had a protective order against me for 6 months I couldn't see my daughter or him. Which lead my down a very destructive life style. got a couple criminal charges.  And was put in mental health court.  But bc of that my husband decided to take me back.  I'm going to school.  I never want to lose my family again.  I know how hard it was u bc that was my hubby.  Ya know?  But think it's awesome u stood beside him. Shows just much u love him hopefully he's that.