Weekend Alcoholic

[laststraw61]

My husband buys hard liquor and hides it in the basement and sneaks down there with a glass and drinks until he is incoherent and usually passes out.  This is only on the weekends -Friday and Saturday afternoon and evening.
If you confront him, he acts stupid "What are you talking about?"  and will never admit to anything (even though you can smell the liquor in his glass).  This has gone on for about 7 years.  There are months that go by and he stops but then there are months where it is every weekend.  Is this something I should really worry about and see that he talks to a professional to sort out this problem?  I think it is really a problem that he needs to deal with but I wanted a second opinion.

[ibizan]

So why do u stay w/this situation?r u financially dependent on him?how do ur kids see all of this?cannot be a good influence on them!

[laststraw61]

I do try to find the bottles in the basement if I can find them I get rid of them. His brother is a true alcoholic.  He has lost many jobs, everything he owns, his license, gotten
kicked out of a sober house, etc.  I think my husband is hiding it from our kids for that reason even though they are much smarter and know when he is drunk.  That is why they
do not like having people over on the weekends, too afraid their dad will embarrass them.
I am willing to go with him for help but I can not get him to admit that there is a problem
so he will get help.  I know there is something behind the drinking.  

[rpooo]

Why do you think he feels the need to hide it? Does he have alot of stress and just needs something to calm him  down and have a good nights rest? In 7 years you have never picked up his glass while he was drinking from it? What about pulling out the bottle you know was full in front of him? Does he think it would upset you or is there a history of alcoholism?

There must be more to the story. Most people don't feel the need to hide drinking from their spouse.

Randy

[zeak12884]

If he's drinking until he incoherent and passing out and the fact that he's hiding it and sneaking to drink and then denying it.  I tend to agree with you it's definitely a problem. Alcoholics will hide booze from family members to cover up how much they're drinking but deep down we know we've got a problem and then we'll deny it when confronted.  Cause the drink unfortunately has so much control over us. Also, we often get defensive when confronted over our drinking habits by friends or  family members and deny how much we are really drinking to downplay the habit.   I know that's what I used to do.

[rod44]

If it is a problem for you (the fact you are here suggests it is) and you are worried then it is a problem. The fact he is not willing to talk with you about it is also a problem so if you can get him to talk to professional then go for it. He needs to be accessed medically anyway to see if his drinking is causing medical issues.