What is the prognosis?

[Beanie0]

I have recently broke up with my partner of 14 years.  I recognise now that my drinking has caused a lot of distress within the relationship and have decided to address the problem.  I have tried before and have failed.  I suffer with 'Borderline Personality Disorder' which describes a sufferer is often unable to stick to a long term recovery program.  To beat my alcohol addiction I would need to be consistent and would not get immediate results.  My history clearly reminds me of my want to get better followed my a not want to get better.  Another thought I have is 'I can do it' to 'I can't do it'.  From one extreme to the other I really am.  Do I have a chance of recovery, or can you already tell by reading this that I will most likely fail?

[ibizan]

hey i just thought of a new name 4 u...Punk-In-My_Head!!!!:)hahah...and this one i love from AA"There are those who are constituitionally incapable"....that covers sooooooooooo many!

[rpooo]

We all did it, your turn. You can do it!

[Punkinhead75]

There have been times in my recovery where I have not wanted to be sober.  The key for me is knowing that that is "stinkin thinkin".  I have to put aside what I want and just do the next right thing which usually entails going to a mtg, calling sponsor or friend in AA to saying a prayer and askign for help.  A while ago I made a decision to stay sober and at the time I said I was willing to do whatever it takes.  During the tough times I'll ask myself " Am I still willing to be sober despite the fact my brain tells me I don't want it?"

My drinking history shows me that drinking doesn't end well for me.  It destroys me and I in turn end up destroying my life.  The right thing for me to do today is to stay sober.

Here is a line from "The Big Book of AA".  It is commonly read at the beginning of a mtg:

"There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be honest."

I believe you can get and stay sober.  Best of luck!!

[ibizan]

i have been sober/clean for 27 years.there is no word such as unable.....more like unwilling!if u want sobriety bad enuf u will WORK for it....and work it is indeed.......if u r WILLING to do the work....u have bought hook line and sinker the diagnostic label u've been dubbed with.....alcoholics complicate what is indeed simple!

[pops678]

i am an alcoholic and have been sober for 5 years now, the sentance about not doing it an being able to do it,  every heavy drinker goes through in my experience. my only saviour was AA.
it took me 3 years of going to finally get the message, some people get it instantly and some dont get it at all. consistancy isnt really the problem, iin youre heart you have to want it, and the people at AA really help you to understand the disease.
the only thing i would recommend is if you go to a meeting go with an open mind........good luck