am i an alcoholic

[hardlife75]

i drink maybe once a month, i dont crave alcohol, but sometimes when i drink, i get out of control, and i cant control myself, spending money, hurting loved ones. but even though i dont crave alcohol, I cant completely stop drinking, how do i stop.

[ibizan]

it doesn't sound like ur drinking has caused u enough misery yet for u to make a committment to change!what do u think it would take for u to hit ur bottom?

[rpooo]

In your post it seems you contradict yourself because you say "you do not crave alcohol" but that you "can't stop drinking"? Why can't you just never drink again?

Is it the influence of being around others drinking that convinces you to drink? If this is the case then think about this for a moment.. Imagine your hanging around your loved ones and they notice you are drinking, Nobody says anything to you about it because the don't want to get you started spouting off but in the minds of everyone there they are all think oh great, she's drinking again! Maybe some even leave sooner because they just don't want to be around later when you start opening your big mouth all because you can't control your alcohol. Whats so great about drinking if all you do is hurt the people you love and make yourself feel bad later for doing it?

So now I ask you again, why is it you can't just not drink? Which person would you rather be.. the drunk girl or the sober girl? Do you think these are the actions of an alcoholic?

I assume the "75" in your user name is the year you were born. if this is the case then we are close in age. I was born in 72. Also I on 03-23-10 just last year, I was diagnosed with end stage cirrhosis because I am an alcoholic. You know it would probably only take a little bit of will power for you to not drink. I hope the best for you :)
Randy

[ducky406]

I would suggest going to an AA meeting. The people there are very welcoming and understanding. You don't have to speak if you're not comfortable. But if you are, maybe they can help you. Even if you're not comfortable with talking, I believe even the quietest person sitting in the corner can teach you something. I am not an addict, but I've gone to many AA meetings, family camping trips, and BBQ's with my sister who is. No one judged me or made me feel like an outsider. So even if you don't feel like you really belong there now, it could be a good experience.

[bigsissie]

If you can't stop you are a alcoholic. Just because you do not drink everyday or even every week does not mean you do not have a problem. Apparently you do since you are having problems with your family and controlling your self. You may try AA meetings and see how that goes or some other type of counseling. Best of luck to you.

Sissie