My 18 yr old granddaughter has been arrested for calling her boyfriend who had a restraining order against her. She also has pending, stealing cigarettes, verbal abuse to a nurse, breaking a car window in an argument with someone & we did not post bail & would like to get power of attorney & see if we can have her put in a rehab. She has been on a downward spiral for at least 4 years. We know she drinks & are pretty sure that she takes various drugs. What can we do?
Lynn I wish you were able to help her when she was a minor. Now that she is over the age of 17 it will take a court order to force her in to rehab. I think your question could be better handled by an attorney. Many offer free advice or even speak to a judge or other law official. If help is needed they would help her in the right direction. Make sure they understand your concerns so she doesn't just serve time and get released without the help she needs. Still drugs and alcohol doesn’t excuse any crime committed so sentencing may still be necessary. Good luck to you and I hope the best for your granddaughter. Do the best you can to let her know that your there for her through all of this. She may really need the support.
Check the laws in ur state about coerced rehab.In the state of Ohio judges typically don't do it....and in rehab facilities if the person is blatantly refusing it they don't admit them for it stirs the other patients up...causes havoc...and addicted patients are difficult to deal with in detox and on a rehab unit in early phase.Another issue is who will pay for it?Does she have health care insurance?it looks like she's being charged w/misdemeanors...and these courts do not have and cannot fund a costly inpatient stay that averages around $800/day.Sometimes the felony courts have federal funding to place ppl in state funded residential programs....we have some good ones here in Ohio and some bad ones...but again it all boils down to what laws she has broken....the probation officers recommendation based on a pre-sentence investigation usually done in a felony case...the Judge and always the almighty dollar!
Thank you so much for responding to my question. She got out on bail last night & tomorrow is the court appearance, so if we all go maybe we can speak to someone who can demand that she goes into rehab. She has been tricking all of us, she would pretend to be bipolar & was given meds by a doctor & then she would act alright for awhile but not take meds. She was recently sent to hospital with a very high alcohol level & carried on & was sent to a psych unit for 5 days & was supposed to go to rehab, but never went. We want to help her so desperately but don't know what to do
Thank you again
Thank you for responding. She is on medicaid & lives in new york. She had nycares, but applied for welfare & lost that coverage. Hopefully the judge will demand she goes to some kind of rehab. We are all really at a loss as what to do. Thank you
Lynn I know it's hard to watch her go down this path but unfortunately I dont think their is much you can do about it since she is no longer a minor. You really need some legal advice from someone that is familar with the laws of your state. That is the best place to start and they will direct you where to go from there.
I agree w/my friend rpoohbear...does she have a court appointed attorney?has she been charged w/a misdemeanor or felony?in Ohio some counties have what is called a drug court......and there is funding for rehab if it is there..and the Judge orders it!u will have to find out if her county of residence has this......how far do u live from her?
I would highly recommend Alanon for you also. When we have a loved one that is using we tend to enable them and that is the worst thing you can do for an addict. We really do have to fall flat on our face. Forcing us into something like this doesnt always work. We go thru the motions. With you getting some recovery care you will be able to find some peace with this situation. I know it is hard to watch a child go thru this but she has to be held accountable for her actions. Educate yourself on addiction, knowledge is power. Keep us posted on how this all goes down. Be good to yourself~~~sara
If she is in trouble with the law you need to talk with them and they can have her sent to a treatment center in this state you can they will send her to a counselor at mental health or health org. and find out what she needs but if shes having trouble with drugs then you can get her the help she needs.
Thank you all for responding. I can't believe there's nothing we can do. Last night she cut her wrists & was admitted to the hospital. She's drinking & on drugs & we can do nothing because she's 18. She needs to be in a rehab program inpatient but it seems that she cannot be forced. Thank you again. Lynn
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