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i think i got a little to much HALT going on too, between the hormones, fighting the flu, fighting the husband...ugh..everything crept up at once and i chose the wrong way to cope.....thanks Sara
yes it is an awkward situation, one that i brought up at my meetings and no one really knew what to do...we do know this, people tend to get jealous, angry, etc when they see you change...but its confusing cuz hes the one that put me in the hospital??? also, i must be honest and mention, he is still using....not drinking, abusing his meds..i know he is, my sponsor does to, so therefore he is putting his guilt on me.
i guess i had been accused so much i decided what the heck...i know, wrong answer, but like my sponsor said, isnt funny how much better hubby and i are getting along now that i failed....hmmm like she said, maybe i did it intentionally to save my marriage. i know how screwed up that sounds....but i am trying to get across what a strange situation this is, i mean really....it blindsided me or i would have never agreed to a second child.....
no matter what the reason, yes, i am to blame, i picked up the drink, i relapsed. i am grateful i stopped at one...i am grateful for you guys, i have not been able to get back to my meeting because i have a severe flu bug and it has me knocked out, between that and chasing my 13 month old around, i am too worn down. but rest assured you will be hearing from me in the meantime, and my sponsor comes over on a daily basis...she is the best.
thanks again everyone, i am curious as to what you think of this situation if anything, anyone ever been through this before, when you get better someone feels threatened by the new you???
other than that, i am on day 3, working my program, and taking it minute by minute
i am very torn, we were planning a new life, sober, both of us for once in our lives, planning a new baby....to raise our kids in a different way than we were, without drugs and alcohol around. i cant believe, this all seems like a nightmare....not to mention i am very ill, so nothing makes much sense right now. i think i have the answer, but like i have been told, do not make any moves for about a year....like sara said, protect yourself...and prepare....
thanks again, like i said i am too ill to make it to my meetings, so you guys are a huge help and support. i feel like a fool, like i had to fail in order to make him feel better...how messed up is that????
anyway....i appreciate your time and the storites you have shared....and you are right, no one is worth losing my sobriety over...i see that NOW, i have to work into my program to make sure i keep that in sight at ALL TIMES!!!!! hard work lies ahead, i know big changes are up and coming, but right now, baby steps
Ray