i want my dad to get sober

My dad is a military vet and over the past few years I see him drinking more and more. He calls only when drunk and talks about nonsense and then tries talking to his granddaughter. I am a daddy's girl and its killing me to see him like this. My mom was a drug addict and I too. Ave been in recovery. I just want him to get help before it's to late

[ducky406]

Unfortunately he needs to WANT to get sober, that is the only way it will stick. Addiction is a serious disease and all you can really do is try to be supportive. Let him know you love him and you want him in your life, but you can't handle him drunk. It's a hard place to be but there are support groups for family members of addicts.

[ibizan]

Nasty insidious disease we have...ducky is so right on....he has to see it as a problem and want to get sober......u and ur mom need to get to Al-Anon or another support group that works for u!

[dominosarah]

Congrats on your recovery~~

Your dad has to want to get sober for himself.  Seems many of the vets are going down this road lately.  Does he acknowledge he has a problem?  As for you, check out Alanon.  They will give you good advice so you dont have to live in your dad's addiction.  Take care of you as that is what is important.  I hope for your dads sake and yours he will get some help.  Keep talking with us~~~sara

[lboogie7729]

You've come to a good place. There are a lot of people on here who can offer support. My dad is also an alcoholic and I just quit drinking myself last year. I know what it is like to want to see our parent get sober, a lot of people on here know what that's like. I have come to a point in my life where I am upfront with my dad about wanting him to quit, where I'm at with life now that I gave up drinking, and I have also set boundaries that include no drunk dials! Take care of yourself first and foremost and take care of your daughter. It certainly can't hurt to check out Al-Anon or Adult Children of Alcoholics and it might really help a lot just to talk to others who can relate. Good luck to you and your family, sending love! <3