liver or what???

[daisylee44]

My husband is an alcoholic and he has chronic back pain on the right side of his back...could it liver problems....
   he also is abusing his asthma inhaler... what could possibly be going on with his heart and lungs??? he has abused alcohol ever since he was sixteen years old and he is now 50 years old.... and he has been  a daily drinker for the last 8 years..... i appreciate any kind of answer he wont go to the dr because he of course is in denial....

[ibizan]

many of us here who are posting to you ARRESTED our disease b4 it killed us!Your hub can recover....if he wants it bad enuf......i committed to myself to my recovery 26 years ago.....it wasn't minus struggles...but i told myself i would end up killing someone else in a drunk driving accident if i didn't stop myself.....i grabbed control of it!I know controlled drinking is impossible for me ever again.....but we can stop this b4 it ruins our lives completely!

[daisylee44]

yes i have been to alanon-- dont know why but i find more help online then at alanon...

   anyhow, i take one day at a time and keep my focus on my life because that is the only thing that i can do anything about..and things with hubby well they will go the way that they are going to go....
   it is so hard to watch  when someone that you love is drowning themselves on a daily basis with alcohol and they have so much to live for... i am finally getting it that it is a disease and that he cant control it.... but it is hard to watch things and then to tell him to go get help and he wont do anything..
   i do have support of online groups and am so thankful for that.........

[ibizan]

u have been given very good suggestions here!i so agree with dominosarah about trying Al-Anon...ever been 2 a meeting?

[daisylee44]

I agree there is nothing that i can do and have been totally accepting that. i am learning to adapt as things come up and to take care of just about everything myself-- you can not rely on an alcoholic.And i have been working on myself because i am the one i can count on for me and my son...
    Hubby will go to the dr when he ends up in so much pain that he cant handle it or when he ends up in a coma from it then i will call 911 and they will take him... he has been drinking every day for 8 years and before that he has binge drinking since he was a teenager...
    i am learning that i can take care of things because i am the only one who can do it...once in awhile hubby does get up and take care of things but it doesnt last-so i have taught myself to take charge of my life.......

[dominosarah]

I always hate to say until he is ready to sober up there is nothing you can do.  It sounds so cold but it is the facts.  Its hard to not do anything when you live under one roof.  I would strongly suggest going to Alanon.  Since there IS nothing you can do for your husband there are things you can do for yourself and ways to change how you react to your situation.  Most often our families are the ones who are affected the most.  You get the brunt of our addiction.  You deserve to have some peace in your life.  This doesnt happen overnight and in no way means you dont love your husband.  Keep talking to us as we are here to support you........sara

[daisylee44]

He of course will not go to the dr because according to him he does not have a problem he is in total denial.... and i have been told that he will get to the dr when the pain is bad enough or if he ends up collapsing.... he is not willing but i come here for possible solutions and support..
   It is tough and always hope that he will eventually one day realize that this is no way to live his life....(and mine)
     thank you all for responding to my post-i do know that no one can diagnose but just to give me a possible idea as to what things could be..... will keep coming back Saralee

[Purbeckgirl]

Just my 2 cents worth but I think the pain could well be alcohol related. People with drink problems are often in denial, is there anyway, anyway, that he could see a doctor, is there a friend that could persuade him? My husband does not listen to me either. Wishing you well, I am always here for you, Nicky

[Jacker]

I don't think anyone on a internet forum can give him a medical diagnosis.  Suffice it to say that alcohol is hard on the organs......especially those related to digestion and the heart.  Sometimes, a person needs a wake-up call before they will quit drinking.....can you get him to see a doctor for some blood tests?  It never hurts to get a bloodwork now and then, and it would be nice to find out where he stands.

Is he willing to do that? He doesn't necessarily have to tell the doctor that he drinks at this point...just get the tests.  

[dominosarah]

I would bet his organs have just had enough of the abuse.  There will come a time real soon where he wont have any choice in the matter about going to a doctor as he will just collapse.  

How are you doing with all of this?  You are also a concern as being a spouse of an alcoholic is very hard.  Keep talking with us.......sara