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im so done with my self destructing ways, but know i cant do this on my own....
Life without alcohol has not been all that fun. Alcohol is a lot of fun. I love to get drunk. But I feel like I'm finally living life now instead of burying my head in the sand (and you don't see this for quite a while after you stop drinking). I'm able to cope some of the time and am learning how to do it more often.
Another tip: write down all the things that quiting drinking will cost you. That's your price for a new start. For me it was 1. being miserable for a month while you obsess over a drink 2. losing friends that were tied to that life style 3. feeling pain for the first time in a long time. 4. not being able to pick up girls as easily
It's not all that good a deal on paper: you're miserable, lonly and in mental anguish from all the things you've let pile up or go wrong and the ONLY thing you get out of it is a fresh start. That's a hell of a tall order and the only way I was going to make it was to call upon past experiences where I was deep deep in the hole and knew it would take me a year to get out. By telling myself that the cost of sobriety was basically to be a miserable slave for a year, that I'd have no enjoyment, companionship and have to actually face and deal with problems, I was able to prepare for and bear the burden. I told all my friends so that the gilt would be too high if I returned to drinking. I wasn't ready to accept those terms for a long time but when I was, sobriety was a difficult but inevitable path.
I truely believe that alcoholism is a disease but that will can overcome it. You CAN walk for 24 hours straight if you wanted to badly enough. You CAN stop drinking or 24 hours if you want to badly enough. I really think that most people don't lay out and accept the COST before they BUY the program of sobriety in whatever form it's pitched to them in. And if you don't like what you bought, you'll return it, right?
Best of luck to you with you problem and with your decision.
-A