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possible to not be effected by alcohol?
Okay I know im probably gonna get bashed for being a buzz kill here its okay ive been dealing with that forever.
I dont drink I turned 21 6months before my husband and still didn't drink... well he is about to turn 21 (he drinks, not at home because im a buzz kill but with friends/ family)
WELL he turns 21 in a week. He had me buy beer (he dosent drink hard liquor much, just alot of beer) and wine coolers.
He wants me to have a drink just a wine cooler or two on his bday with him and his friends. But he is forever talking about how cool it is thats his friends girls drink and can handle it and are fun and him and his friends were talking about how im not gonna be able to handle it blah blah blah ( hurt my feelings a bit.) Its like this with everything always being compared to "other girls" he knows but anyway off the subject.
I want to know the best way to have alcohol have the least effect on me. Any tips of something to eat before or anything? Even if I have to secretly dump it out and fill ot up with cool aid I refuse to get tipsy! And I dont wanna proof my husband right about not being able to handle it even if I have to lie about drinking it lol (super buzz kill I know) but I dont plan on drinking much so this isnt gonna br an on going problem for me.
Im 115 lb and never drank before. If it was a gf I might try it and not be worried about getting a buzz but with all the comments I get from him I really want to prove him wrong. So please dont twll me to just drink and enjoy myself because no lol
I dont drink I turned 21 6months before my husband and still didn't drink... well he is about to turn 21 (he drinks, not at home because im a buzz kill but with friends/ family)
WELL he turns 21 in a week. He had me buy beer (he dosent drink hard liquor much, just alot of beer) and wine coolers.
He wants me to have a drink just a wine cooler or two on his bday with him and his friends. But he is forever talking about how cool it is thats his friends girls drink and can handle it and are fun and him and his friends were talking about how im not gonna be able to handle it blah blah blah ( hurt my feelings a bit.) Its like this with everything always being compared to "other girls" he knows but anyway off the subject.
I want to know the best way to have alcohol have the least effect on me. Any tips of something to eat before or anything? Even if I have to secretly dump it out and fill ot up with cool aid I refuse to get tipsy! And I dont wanna proof my husband right about not being able to handle it even if I have to lie about drinking it lol (super buzz kill I know) but I dont plan on drinking much so this isnt gonna br an on going problem for me.
Im 115 lb and never drank before. If it was a gf I might try it and not be worried about getting a buzz but with all the comments I get from him I really want to prove him wrong. So please dont twll me to just drink and enjoy myself because no lol
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Right on Tink!and the rest of you!Your husband sounds like a immature juvenile who follows the crowd and may be in the developing stages of a problem!Its all up to you to decide if you want to follow his bad choices...or make your own!
You have made the choice not to drink. so DON'T!!
It's odd that Your Husband would compare You to other Girls as regards drinking. Why is it important to Him that You have a drink or two?? Most especially why would He want You to do this when You prefer not to? I am SO not getting this!! It doesn't sound to me that He has Your best interest at heart, but His own instead!! I would suggest that Your Husband has a problem with alcohol and wants You to join Him in order to take the focus off HIS drinking.
That being said, People drink alcohol to get "high". They WANT the "buzz" They get from alcohol. If it wasn't for seeking the "buzz", People would drink water, or juice, or coke, or rootbeer, or something without alcohol. It truly is about the "buzz".
It makes NO sense for You to have an alcoholic drink with no intention of becoming "buzzed". If You don't want the "buzz", DON'T DRINK ALCOHOL!! - simple as that!!
It also seems odd to me that You would want to "trick" Him into thinking You are having an alcoholic drink if You are not. Who's proving what here??!! Who's proving WHAT to WHO??!! ....and WHY??!!
Just say "NO", say "NO thank you, but NO!!"
It's odd that Your Husband would compare You to other Girls as regards drinking. Why is it important to Him that You have a drink or two?? Most especially why would He want You to do this when You prefer not to? I am SO not getting this!! It doesn't sound to me that He has Your best interest at heart, but His own instead!! I would suggest that Your Husband has a problem with alcohol and wants You to join Him in order to take the focus off HIS drinking.
That being said, People drink alcohol to get "high". They WANT the "buzz" They get from alcohol. If it wasn't for seeking the "buzz", People would drink water, or juice, or coke, or rootbeer, or something without alcohol. It truly is about the "buzz".
It makes NO sense for You to have an alcoholic drink with no intention of becoming "buzzed". If You don't want the "buzz", DON'T DRINK ALCOHOL!! - simple as that!!
It also seems odd to me that You would want to "trick" Him into thinking You are having an alcoholic drink if You are not. Who's proving what here??!! Who's proving WHAT to WHO??!! ....and WHY??!!
Just say "NO", say "NO thank you, but NO!!"
Hi Jrenee
There are always going to be people that are going to drink around you, primarily your husband and his friends and family. As you said your young and at that age where a lot of people are Yahoos about reaching the legal age to drink.
You are 21 and of legal age. You are now responsible for your OWN actions. The choices you make should be your own. If you feel like you want to have a couple of beers or wine coolers to celebrate your husbands birthday , than you do it........but if your doing it to prove to your husband and his friends that you can handle drinking and not get drunk, you will be drinking all the wrong reasons.
I seem to detect some hurt or anger at your husband for "comparing" you to others, men or women, yes? I actually think that is an issue that should be addressed right now, before proving yourself becomes something you will be doing through out your marriage. Believe me , girlfriend , that is no way to live. You picked this guy. He drank and compared you to others before you tied the knot. Before it goes any further straighten him out now!!
You should never be compared to others....as IF!! your not up to their standards!! You are unique and hopefully that uniqueness was why your husband fell in love with you. Hell girl, for all you know "those" others are a bunch of drunks, who are starting down the wrong road. Do not go along for Their ride.
Just my opinion but I think you and your husband should have a heart to heart about how hurtful it is when he "compares" you to others, and you won't put up with that kind of dialogue. Then if you want to have a couple of drinks and you are Not an alcoholic, go for it. You do not have to keep up with them, you can have a drink or two and watch the rest of the gang have "fun", which when excessive amounts of alcohol are used, is just another way of them looking like Jack-----! That can be your entertainment for the evening, and you will be able to drive them home.
Good Luck, and Happy "21" to you and your husband.
CML
There are always going to be people that are going to drink around you, primarily your husband and his friends and family. As you said your young and at that age where a lot of people are Yahoos about reaching the legal age to drink.
You are 21 and of legal age. You are now responsible for your OWN actions. The choices you make should be your own. If you feel like you want to have a couple of beers or wine coolers to celebrate your husbands birthday , than you do it........but if your doing it to prove to your husband and his friends that you can handle drinking and not get drunk, you will be drinking all the wrong reasons.
I seem to detect some hurt or anger at your husband for "comparing" you to others, men or women, yes? I actually think that is an issue that should be addressed right now, before proving yourself becomes something you will be doing through out your marriage. Believe me , girlfriend , that is no way to live. You picked this guy. He drank and compared you to others before you tied the knot. Before it goes any further straighten him out now!!
You should never be compared to others....as IF!! your not up to their standards!! You are unique and hopefully that uniqueness was why your husband fell in love with you. Hell girl, for all you know "those" others are a bunch of drunks, who are starting down the wrong road. Do not go along for Their ride.
Just my opinion but I think you and your husband should have a heart to heart about how hurtful it is when he "compares" you to others, and you won't put up with that kind of dialogue. Then if you want to have a couple of drinks and you are Not an alcoholic, go for it. You do not have to keep up with them, you can have a drink or two and watch the rest of the gang have "fun", which when excessive amounts of alcohol are used, is just another way of them looking like Jack-----! That can be your entertainment for the evening, and you will be able to drive them home.
Good Luck, and Happy "21" to you and your husband.
CML
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