stop drinking and diarrhea

[sickbelly]

I posted this in another forum on here, but then seen this forum and felt it was more on tack of my question and whats going on with my body.This is gross and I am sorry I am just trying to find out that is going on.
I am a 29 year old female and have drank heavily since I was 12. I stopped drinking cold turkey a little over a week ago, but now I have massive diarrhea, like 20 plus times a day. Its a bright yellow "bubbly" diarrhea, kinda like when you drink a ton of beer and go to restroom the next day. So I was just wondering if this is a normal reaction to alcohol withdraw or if it is some more serious.  

[kyle82]

Hi,

Good to know that you have stopped that habit for now. Do not let yourself down thinking that your diarrhea is not essentially the outcome of your abstemiousness. I suggest you go to a doctor because excessive diarrhea will make you look leaner than you are.

[ibizan]

SB- so sorry ur having to go thru this **** with ur bro...u do NOT hafta take it!do ur damndest to tune him out!some ppl r like flies they pester others and eat poop!and rod-i'll be thinking/praying for u on tuesday!

[sickbelly]

I some what know what you mean, I am starting to learn to love myself again. Slowly but surely. And yes I do try so hard to be positive. For not only myself, but my children, husband, dad & mostly my moms parents. She was a wonderful person. Well I know most children say that about their parents, but she was, I can not think of one person who did not love/like her.

[rod44]

Hi Heatherose,

it was hard but as time went on and I got back my dignity and self-respect I again made friends.....today life is good.
It is hard loosing one of your family, your mom was a good person by the sounds of it, it is important to keep her memory alive especially the happy side of it.
stay positive and stay sober and you will have a life beyond your wildest dreams, that is what i was told in AA and it has proved to be the case....

Ray

[sickbelly]

I am so sorry to hear that no one was really there for you. That is horrible. I was lucky with my mom, if I even went in for a physical, my mom would show up to make for sure I was ok.I was married to my first husband when I got my tubes tied. They had me on some massive pain pills, I could not walk or even get a drink of water by myself. My ex husband would not do a damn thing to help me. But my mom would stay with me as long as she could.I miss her so freakin much.
I am glad that you do have people working on a plan for you. I also know what you mean about "so called friends", since not drinking I have realized that I really do not have any friends, they were all just drinking friends., It's sad I am almost 30 & have pretty much no friends. Well life goes on, maybe I can met some & they will be "true" friends. I have decided that I am going to go back through this class that helps you stop smoking. I had done it awhile back, but my mom ended up in the hospital *& before I knew it I was smoking again. She smoked, but she was so proud of me when I had tried to stop.
As for my brother, I am done arguing with him. I will tolerate all of his ****, just for my fathers sake.I have realized that is in a way beneath me as an adult and that is fine. I just hope for his sake that one day he will grow up.
Heatherose

[rod44]

Thanks Ibizan, It is interesting that you ask if i have support at home, since getting sick I have discovered all over again just how  lucky I am. The last time i was in hospital no one asked after me to see if I was OK, the so called Friends I had all suddenly disappeared when they discovered I was in for detox, my family were just unable to take any more. i spent three months and in that time the only visitor I had were people from AA who came to help and support me even when I was not very cooperative....

In the seven years that I have been sober I have become best friends with my sister, I have my AA family and I have my partner Anne,  they are all equally fantastic. My friends from AA along with Anne and my sister are working together to have an aftercare plan for me. Would I have this if I was drinking.....

Sickbelly your prayers are gratefully appreciated, you are here on the site now and using it to get help and by doing so helping others, I can identify with you, I was drinking at the time my Dad past away, I behaved much like your brother. I added to the grief and sadness that my family were going through.
You need to let go of the anger and the possible resentment building against your brothers, deal with your own grief and avoid this fighting, it will end badly for you. Remember what Ibizan said in an earlier post H.A.L.T.
you are doing the right thing by venting here, well done I know it cant be easy for you at this time.

Ray

[sickbelly]

Yes I will pray for you Ray, so sorry to hear about that.Hopefully surgery will go nice & easy. That is one word that does freak me out, (surgery).
You all have been so awesome I wish if I would have came to this site along time ago.
I am about to give up on going to my parents house trying to help my dad. He has had alot of health problems. He has survived like 3 heart attacks. So I do not expect him to clean this house by himself. I have not been over in almost a week.I went today to clean & go through things. Ended up being a HUGE fight between me & brother. See I do not remember if I mentioned this before but I have 2 older brothers who live there, they are 40 & 36.Neither have a job, they have lived off of my parents for SEVERAL years know. I moved out of parents house when I was 16.So my brother gets completely **** faced, and wants me to keep all this garbage & take it home. Then he tells me I never loved my mom, and how its just him & me fixing these houses. Well I guess by him & me means him telling me what to do & me doing it. So I am the type who can only take so much. Lets just say today when I left he was crying. He is so overly emotional   and for him to drink makes him even emotional.So as you can not tell I just needed to vent. Sorry guess. Hope everyone is doing good!

[ibizan]

that is indeed anxiety provoking!i take it u will have someone to help u at home after this?many many healing prayers for u!

[rod44]

Hi Ibizan, thanks for your kind words, I have benefited very much from being part of this community and have no intension of going very far from here.
I was DX earlier this year with a cyst in the center of my spinal cord, I had an appointment with a neurosurgeon on Tuesday afternoon, well to cut a long story short they have decided they may need to operate to place a shunt to drain it. the doctors are meeting on Monday to discuss where to go from here but have indicated that my condition needs to be treated urgently and the only treatment is surgery. The surgery however is high risk as it involves the spinal cord so I am in a bit of a delima....

I will keep you all updated on how things progress.

Regards Ray

[ibizan]

whatever it is that is ailing you i hope it is medical fixable......don't disappear here...we need u and value ur advice...u have been such a help to me and many of us here!take care of urself and keep us informed!:)

[rod44]

Hi Sara, Still here, not been to well but you cant keep a bad thing down for long lol!! back for now but could be missing for a few weeks in the future but dont worry I will give you all advance warning lol.....

Ray

[ibizan]

your brothers are such fools.....yeegads there r 2 many of them in the world!oh what an ordeal u r going thru and I know.....u and ur dad will grow closer.....go easy with that material stuff......it is just stuff and years of it to sort thru!practicing HALT is imperative now!

[dominosarah]

I was worried about you too Rod!!  Nice to see you.......sara

[rod44]

Like Sahra I to am glad you took some time out, that kinda pressure when doing what must be a very sad job is not good for you. I am also glad things are good with your dad, you and he need each other at this time....keeping you in my prayers.

Ray

[dominosarah]

Im glad to hear you took some time off.  You needed that.  Sounds like you and your dad are connecting now and that is great!!!  Stay in touch or we worry!!      sara

[sickbelly]

Yes I just took so much time off, my dad called me worried. I have not went back over there for 5 days, I will go back tomorrow.I had to take a breather. All my brothers were doing was telling me what to do & getting drunk. I could not stand the fighting anymore. But my dad completely understands. My mom has always been my rock, but now that she is gone, my dad is really trying to now. Which helps me alot. He used to think I was a ***** because I am very outspoken, but he says now he just realizes how much my mother & I are alike. And instead of thinking I am *****, he thinks my mother raised me very good.He kinda likes it now that she is not here to ***** at him...lol

[ibizan]

don't forget HALT......don't let urself get too hungry angry lonely and tired.......and mega loads of poop upon ur family for not being more helpful to u during this time.......so crappy!u can't get 50 years of stuff accumulated gone thru in a short period of time.....go easy and do what u can!

[dominosarah]

My dad was in the military for 45 yrs and he saved EVERYTHING from that.  We had 5 shredders going and burnt up 3 of them!!!  What a nightmare that was!!!!

[sickbelly]

yeah I know what you mean, my family thinks I am starting to lose it...lol. thats funny that they held on to all that for so long. And its like my mom, she would even keep receipts from the grocery store because they had her signature & the last 4 digits of her credit card number on them. She was so paranoid over all that stolen identity ****. So of course I cant just look at them & through them away. My dad is having me put all of them in another to burn..lol I guess hes paranoid off all that too.  

[dominosarah]

I sometimes get the smell of my dads aftershave.  It comes out of the blue or i have heard him call my name and when i answer the rest of my family looks at me like i am nuts!!!  Noone else hears it but me.....My dad was a pack rat and when we went to clean out their house and man the things we found.....They had saved their polio vaccination receipts from 1962!!!  I also found the breeding schedule of their cows from the 1950's!!!

Dont forget to take some time for you during all of this.  Glad to see you posting!!!     sara

[sickbelly]

Wow thats alot of things to go through.My parents have 2 houses. One in the city, one in country. I have been busting my butt off trying to get the one in city clean & gone through, but have only got one room done. My father wants me to go to the house in the country this weekend. But I told him I have to get my own house clean first. and that I wanted to weeded one house at a time. I was so mad I have a 3 kids a husband and a step son. I was at the hospice house for a week and half. The day my mom died I finally came home, my house was trashed! No one did anything in it! The day after mom passed I started working in my dads house and I still have not had a chance to do anything in my own. Plus I have bringing things over from her house and have no where to put them! grrrr! oh and there for awhile I thought I was absolutely losing my mind. My mama loved angels, and the other night I had a very vivid dream with angels. Then last night I was setting by myself in my front room, I had dinner cooking. Then all of a sudden all I could do was smell my mom. My moms passing has really made me change the way I look at things.  

[ibizan]

my mom and dad held on2 everything for 62 years!it took us 3 years to go thru it.I have a pile of blankets afghans and pillows from my mom and dad...they still have their scent on them...i won't wash them..it is comforting to wrap up in my moms fav afghan and still smell her in it!i believe in many things we cannot see in this material world.....and have very interesting real life dreams!

[sickbelly]

Sorry I was not trying to be rude by not replying. I have just been so busy. My dad has been having me go to their house & going through everything. Its wouldnt be so bad, but my mama is a pack rat.It was so weird though, last night when I got home I was setting in chair in the corner of my front room & I had dinner cooking. But all I could smell was my mom. I do not know if I really believe in spirits and such but I have had some weird things happen since my mom has passed. And thank you ibizan, you sure did know where I was & what I was doing. :) Thank you for all the prayers everyone. You guys really are the best! :)

[dominosarah]

I am so sorry my friend.  Your mom is in a better place now free from pain.  You will find comfort in her memories at some point.  Let yourself feel the pain now.  We are here for you........sara