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think i've got an drinking problem

hello everyone,

i'm new to this forum so i'm a bit nervous about talking openly about my drinking but here goes, i'm 30 years old and my drinking has been getting worse since i had my baby 8 months ago, i drink everynight about 3 glasses of red wine, recently i have been wanting to drink earlier and earlier everything seems so much easier after i've had a glass of wine, housework, cooking etc, i know it sounds silly but it's like i get the energy to do things, on the days i don't drink (which isn't many) i haven't got the energy to do anything, it feels like i'm shaking inside but my hands don't shake, i just want to stay in bed all day and sleep. i never get drunk just a few glasses of wine, i know i have a problem and i don't know what i can do to stop drinking, i'm scared to go the doctors. i thought this was my first step and after reading everyones posts its given me the courage to talk about it.

nicki.
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495284 tn?1333894042
That easy huh?  I beg to differ.........sara
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If you have a problem then look for a solution... just quit.
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Alcoholism is a disease like any other disease. Doctors should treat it like so. I  am an alcoholic and my medicine is AA. It can't be explaned medically yet like a lot of other drugs but it works. It takes the craving away and gives me a happier life. Try an AA meeting and if you don't like it, shop around for an AA meeting that suits your needs. It is tha only way to stop the craving for alcohol and drugs.  It is more on how to deal with emotions and feelings and how to handle them in your mind so you can live without cravings or worry. It changed my life and now i am free from all those negitive things are not bothering me and have less anxiety. Hang in there. There is an answer to your problems.
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I coined a saying many years back to stop me from caving in2 those damn urges to drink/use drugs......the short amount of time i will spend getting high is a drop in the bucket for the large amount of time i will spend kicking self in butt for having done so!the emotional hangover u will feel afterwards..the shame...the  remorse will not be worth that short buzz.....and u will feel bad for throwing away what u have accomplished thus far!:)
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no she just brings them into the house and then trys to play with them, i've never seen her try to eat any. i only drink coffee in the morning, gona try a hot bath and a good book tonight before bed see if that helps. this is hard takes every bit of willpower ive got.
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gotta watch them frogs and animals...does she ever try to eat them?frogs and toads can release poisons as deterrents that can make animals sick or be fatal!Insomnia very normal at nitetime in sobriety as ur  brain/body clock got ritualized to alcohol!now that is gone brain/ body is saying where is it?Reading self to sleepiness,warm bath enjoyable movies...are u a consumer of caffeine?after 4 pm this can promote insomnia as well....it will go away.......i xperienced the same thing for a few months when i first got sober!
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shes 2 years old, got her very long time! :) my cat thinks shes a frog so stalks her all day long, hunting frogs is her favourite past time, shes always bringing them into the house, poor little things.
since i've stopped drinking i havent slept for 3 nights, i get an hour here and there if i'm lucky, i feel worse than when i was drinking! i'm so tired.
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i have 4 cats......and each introduced to each other over the years.....there was hissing spitting wrestling matches things getting knocked over......at first they do their terriotorial thing and then they get on!it sounds much worse than it actually is!how old is ur tortoise?and yes i have quite the cool animal kingdom here!:)ah yes the unconditional love!one of the great joys of my life!
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at the moment i have only 1 cat and a tortise, i would love to get another cat but my cat is so unfriendly, she was a rescue cat and we think she was abused by a man as she hates my partner with a passion and my dad when he comes to vist but she is lovely with me and my mum she was fine with the other cat i had but they where together when i got them. i don't think i could risk getting another cat and getting attached and then they wouldn't get on.  no we don't get animal planet unfortuantly. sounds like you have a very happy home :) i would surround myself with animals if i could, they love you no matter what
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Awesome isn't it?I have a copy of the Rainbow Bridge after 9/11...the german shepherds were waiting for the police...the dalmatians were waiting for the firemen and if anyone died that didn't have a lot of love in their life there were many  animals up there just waiting to give it!:)i was kissing my greyhound boy on the nose the other day and he is a good kisser back...and i said to him...boy if there isn't an afterlife...a heaven and if this is it...then i will have known heaven on earth!I live with 2 greyhounds ages 11 and a half and 3.....and 4 rescued kitties.....ages 6,5, 4 and latest adoptee is 2! i have a lot of entertainment companionship and love in this house...and hairballs that i am always sweeping up!Do you get Animal Planet over there in the UK?
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i've just been on the rainbow bridge web site, i was in tears from the start! what an amazing place! all those storys, fifs poem had me in floods of tears. thanks for letting me know about that.
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Xactly what i thought u with the Nikita name!:)I would not be sober/clean for as long as i have been if i hadn't of gone to inpatient treatment,attended AA and NA and a variety of other alternatives to 12 Step and stuck with the ppl in those rooms who were serious about their recovery...also had a lot of help from women with good recovery!I have buried 3 greyhounds and 5 cats since 1993....a big piece of me went with with them but I know now when that time comes again I will go forward for my other animals...always have....(my greyhound Colonel Mustard that i had to send to the Rainbow Bridge in 2007 was my first tattoo at age 48)...google this if u haven't seen it...The Rainbow Bridge.....where animals go when they die and its where i want to go.........will soften ur heart and may make u a tad teary!sigh!:)
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i love the film nikita and yes it is part of the reason i choose the name :) i love luc besson films!
it takes a strong person to stay sober/clean after all that! my cat was put to sleep 2 months ago and i was heartbroken and at the time getting drunk was the only thing i wanted to do i was that upset, if it happened now i would hope i would think differently. another day over, one day at a time.
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i 4got to ask u....did u choose the name nikita from La Femme Nikita?that was one of my fav movies and years back it was made in2 a tv series here in the US with Peta Wilson and a host of other foreign actors...i LOVED it!would shut phone off when it was on and watched the re-runs over and over.....was so bummed when it went off the air!
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the real problem is not so much stopping its staying stopped!in 2006 my dad passed,my mom dx'ed with Lewy Body Dementia,my boyfriend went back to his crack cocaine lifestyle and turned in2 the cruelest human,I got rid of him and so glad i did my beloved Balinese cat got cancer,my beloved greyhound got ill and passed 2 years later and a host of medical issues descended upon me.I had the tools to withstand the emotional pain all of this brought...ppl said to me didn't u want to drink?i said hell no what would that help?NOTHING!i did think for 20 minutes how nice it could be to get high with pot but i laughed at the teenage mentality of that thought!!!!Oh aren't u glad u passed up that wine?much more alert to tend to the needs of ur baby!:)and more clear headed and no shameful guilty feelings in the morning!
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wow! this amazing! must have been a hard journey! its storys like yours that gives people like me the motivation not to drink! i felt like i'd overcome another hurdle last night, my partner was on his way home from work and asked me if i wanted a bottle of wine picking up and i said NO! another small thing but it took a lot for me to say no. today i am struggling, i've had a tough day with my little boy, he's got his first cold and i would love a glass of wine, that little voice just wount go away!!!
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there is a lot of good support on this forum and i agree with the saying...and alcoholic or an addict alone is in bad company!all of us are here to help...we have been where u r at!on sunday 11-22 i celebrate 26 years of being sober/clean...what a journey it has been but well worth the work it entails!
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thank you so much for listening to me, it means a lot!
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there HAS 2 b a support group close to u but u sound so ashamed to have others know!this is a universal problem with many humans who have it!but that is good u kept walking AWAY from the wine...u keep that up:)
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no i don't attend church and to be very honest i don't have many friends, i have tried to find a support group where i live but there doesn't seem to be any, i thought i would keep talking on here and use this as a support group. i don't think i can talk to anybody about this. i go back to work in 2 weeks so i think that will help a great deal. i went food shopping this morning and it was the first time in a long time that i didnt buy a bottle of wine!! i know its only a small thing but i felt very pleased with myself!!   nicki
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u r very fortunate to have a good man with u dear!do ur damndest to take care of yourself  your baby and the relationship..for allowing alcohol to interfere with it will bring u regret later....and u cannot allow that!a support group would be a good thing for you...do u attned church?have some good female friends with their heads on straight?
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yeah he does, he's brilliant, i just feel i can't talk to anybody about this. i haven't had a drink today and the day is nearly over, i just hope i can sleep ok. i hope i can stay this strong tomorrow! i feel wiped out mentally trying to fight it! my baby means the world to me, your right i need to keep a clear head for him! thank you.   nicki
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tell that lil voice telling u to have a drinking to go to hell!its the BEAST!beat the BEAST!your baby counts on u.....u know u need to be sober to care for baby.....to be alert focused on ur toes!alcohol dulls that!does ur partner help u with the baby when he's not working?
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i do have a partner but he hasn't seemed to notice that i have a problem, he doesn't drink a drop!! he works long hours so by the time he gets home i'm not drinking, he has never commented when i have had a drink but i never get drunk. i do have my parents but they are both disabled so they can't really help out a great deal with the baby, i've never spoken to them about my drinking, i couldn't bear them to be disapointed in me.
i don't feel depressed, sometimes i get down but don't we all! thank you everyone for listening to me, it's taken me ages to post this and i honestly think that talking about it today is making me not want to drink, i havent had a drink today but its there at the back of my mind, its like someone is saying to me, "go on have a glass of wine and start again tomorrow" its always there.   nicki
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