Is it her demintia or something eles?

[meljean816]

Hey, My grandmother is  84 years old and for about 5 years ago she has been diagnosed with dementia. Shes taking some kind of anxiety/ depression medicine for it. She would have little panic attack here and there, and we use to be able to get her to realize she is fine. Recently my aunt took over pills because my grandma thinks me and my mom do to much, its been about maybe 4 months since they have been in control of her and my grandpa's pills, they bring them when ever they feel like it and don't make sure they take them and you can see they don't care, But in the past months they have been taking care of my grandmother I have noticed shes more aggravated and more aggressive and shes a lot more upset and starts seeing people and having made up conversations in her mind and she worries to the point of panic and ended up in the hospital. I cant tell if maybe shes just getting worse of if maybe her meds aren't being regulated like they should be? I was just wondering if anyone knew is she just getting worse or could they possibly be neglecting my grandmother? They live alone,in the house I grew up in its on like a farm, and my grandpa is handicap in a wheel chair and has MS. Me and my mom are maybe 5 minutes at the least away from the house. So were really just a phone call away, but maybe its time for more help? Any answers are welcome.... Thank you.

[meljean816]

Thank you,
I hope your mom feels better. She had a bladder infection a few months ago, it makes her stomach swell up,they have been doing urine samples on her since she got in the hospital and see no infection but she shes really dehydrated.  She's just got bad heart problems right now, if we could keep her heart rate normal we could take her home but as of right now, shes tied to the bed so she cant leave because she trys to run, she gets really mad at you when you tell her shes in the hospital and called me her sister today and not to tell dad.

Her doctor had the nerve to tell me she wears him out, shes exhausting to take care of. Im like you have a full nursing staff, its just me and my mom at times. don't tell me how tired you are.


Hope things go ok with your mom at the dr's.

Thank you for all your help :)

[heartfluttersflyawayplz]

oh am so so sorry , i know its hurting your heart as it does mine. shes in my prayers as well as you .
so sad that such a strong  lady is down to this. as i watch my mom go down it hurts me so bad.
she was not this bad right. she just got worse. have them check her for a uti. lots times it really makes the worse but once its gone they get back to somewhat normal.
yeah my mom has no ideal half the time who any body is. today we are taking her to dr we think she has a uti shes been really bad about walking . my mom falls alot but when she has a uti she falls more. and really confused when she has one. so have them check that.
plz keep in touch let me know hows shes doing . hang in there girl

[meljean816]

thank you for all your help. well shes in the hospital, her A Fib is not working right. shes bad, she doesn't know who i am anymore apparently im trying to steal her husband lol. my mom is her mom, and shes so confused and shes beating up nurses and they have her in restraints. She tried walking out yesterday gown and all. she gets so agitated till she cant breathe. Told me she hated me,and never wanted to see me again. shes just gotten so bad I figured I had time but I guess not. and we got the pills back so we can help regulate her times, but its looking like she may need a round the clock care or a nursing home. I just miss my grandma.

[heartfluttersflyawayplz]

hum dont think not gettingh er pills on time will make it go faster but do know it does not help her not to get them on time. ya need to talk to whoever is giving them to her and tell them she needs them on time and that if they cant do that, ya will take back over with it. talk to her husband and let him know how inportant it is she gets them on time.

[meljean816]

Hi, Thank you. The people doing her pills now come when every they want, The basically found out my mom and I were getting paid for it which we weren't my grandpa gave us like 5 dollars here and there and said that we need to break and took over and my grandma just went along with it.They were getting their pills once at 7:30 am and then at 3:30 pm they love to go to bed really early. They are now just dropping them off at 10 and 6 or 8 and 5 and they never know when the pills will come and they dont let them know when to take them and its confusing for her.  I know its going to get worse. I just hope that with her meds being at whatever time is convent for the people doing her pills now isnt making her like progress faster ya know?