It's been one month since my mother doesn't recognise her own house anymore. She keeps asking me to take her home and no matter what I tell her or do she believes she lives in a different place although she is, of course, at home ! How can I make her realise she never left her house ? Any suggestions, please ? Thanks !!!
am so sorry you know am going throught the same thing now, she thinks we are in fla and just here to visit, but she has lived with me for 5 years and now shes all confused to. she calls me my sisters name and thinks my husband of 26 years is a new man i found. its so sad to see them go throught this not sure how to help. i tell mt mom over and over its her house that my dad who shes beenmarried to for 56 years is her husband and not her dad or her brother. it breaks my heart so i feel for you to. we are not sure what stage shes in but your mom sounds like shes where my mom is to. my mom has had it for 4 -7 years not really sure when it started but this last 3 months shes took another trn as to where shes so confused on everything. plz keep in touch maybe we can help each other get throught this. prayers are with ya. Barbara
Barbara my mom is in the exact same stage of your mom. Makes my sister and I so sad. She doesn't recognize her home either. This just started a couple weeks ago. She went to my sister's house on Saturday (they have lived there over 10 years) and told my sister she had a nice house and she had never been there. Very sad. I am here for support too. My mom is 72. She had two major strokes when she was 29 and has water on the brain.
AS I read your post my heart hurts for your mom along with you and your sister.
Its a very sad day for all, i learned that each day sometimes each hour is very new to them, they are really living it for the first time even though they have been therre for years. my mom used to say she could not wait to see her new house( they lived with us in our built in basement) we would be up stairs watching tv and out of the blue she would ask my dad if he got the suit cases out of the car , and that she needed to be putting stuff up out of boxes. even though she lived there 5 years already.
you can not tell her shes been there for years, moms dr said that just makes her feel stupid. anger and more confused, so we would go along with her as best as we could. i would say how excited i was that they were with us and how i had already hung her curtains and unpacked her, we went threw this everyday 10-20 times but you just have to keep going threw it,
mom would always say she wanted to go home ( even though she was home ) dr said shes talking about her childhood home, see they live in the past because , they cant think of the future, short term memory is gone but the long term is still with them, so thats all they really know is the past. thats why they talk about loved ones that have gone, mom didnt remember having 4 daughters or even stoped smoking, she didnt remember marrying my dad . its really sad but you have to ease into it with them.
moms , mom had passed and she would try callingher , so my dad would say dont you remember shes dead, well thats wrong because it would throw her into depression, over her mom, now she had been gone 2 years but each time she heard that she relived it as if she had just passed, so we started telling her , her mom had just left our house and how much fun we had being with her , and my mom would smile and say yes she had a great time. i used to tell mom , wow you must be tired we shoped all day, she was bed ridden , lost the will to walk her legs just forgot how so i would say things like that to make her think she had been up and out all day not laying in a bed , she was happy with thoses stories.
you have to learn to go into their world now, its make belive for you but so real to her. enjoy the moments when shes back with you and when shes goes off into her world go with her as long as its not going get her hurt.
plz keep in touch , my prayers are with ya as you take your sweet mother threw this journey, its so not easy on her family but ya are all she has, no one will treat her like a person and love her like ya will. she needs ya to hold her hand and let her know shes safe in her world and ya are there every step of the way. remember she will have moments that she can get mean and say really ugly things to you , but know its not your mom its the alz talking and she cant help it. GOD BLESS HER AND YA Barbara
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