Am I the worst mom...???

[Leah210]

I am a mother of two and am very upset by the little things that trip me off and makes me shout at my kids who most of the time are little angels...I have been trying to deal with this for a long time. When im with strangers im a sweet as can be but when i'm around my own family ive been termed moody grumpy and always mad. Why am i this way..this is the way my mom was with me so i guess something passed on but i wantto break the cycle...i want to be a better mom and wife! Please help

[margypops]

You have insight and the willingness to change this , so you will change it, that is the battle for us all getting to the stage where we accept that we have a problem, and say 'enough' There are many books out there and also counselling help for anger, I do believe you got it right when you say 'this is the way my Mom was with me' in a nutshell, learned behavior and you are teaching it to your children , it is really a matter of control ...when you feel that irritability creeping up,and you know you are going to yell, get into the habit of telling yourself to 'Stop' take a breath take a step back, distract your self, it will become a habit,as the yelling has become a habit.  Maybe you have other frustrations going on in your life if you have a husband around how does he cope with the yelling or does he do it also. ,take time for yourself you have to realise you need some breaks to be you.do the things you want to do, make sure their Dad does his share and plays with them. You will break the cycle there is a book out there that is great for parents to read its called SOS Help for Parents' by Lynn Clark...good luck the very fact you have decided to change this cycle means you will do, let us know how it goes.