Angry husband has become physically abusive

[tammyhigginb]

My husband has a real anger problem, he explodes at the smallest things, usually something unimportant. He yells and calls me and the kids terrible names. We walk on egg shells all the time. A week ago, he became extremely angry at me because I spoke up about his yelling at the kids and pulled his fist back to hit me, but stopped his self and then spat in my face. I got an EPO against him and he is now in a mental hospital for depression. He is in therapy for anger management & depression and he wants to pursue marriage counselling with me. Should I attempt this and possibly save my marriage or should I cut my losses and run?

[margypops]

That is your decision and only yours, you may want to discuss it with his therapists and Doctors, whether it is realisticthat  he will change ...For the children to witness what they did is a bad thing so perhaps you should consider whether it would happen again, violence in the home can affect their lives ..always .My personal opinion is dont look back, move on ..... Good Luck

[allmymarbles]

We all have certain traits that never change, even with the most sincere efforts. For instance, my husband is ill-tempered. He tries to control it, but it slips out all the time. He is a fine husband and father so I put up with it, although he is not a barrel of laughs.

Your husband's problem is more serious and he is potentially dangerous. I don't hold out much hope. Psychologists are notoriously unsuccessful in this area.

[caregiver222]

Cut your losses and run. He is not going to change. There is no law that states you have to go through the rest of your life with a knot in your stomach. As far as "anger management" classes, they won't help a person with chronic brain syndrome.