Sporadic Angry Husband

[vicki2583]

So yesterday while in the shower I asked my husband if there was anything he can do for his snoring. He snores extremely loud and I am 7.5 months pregnant and now with my frequent potty breaks at night Ive noticed it more.  Omg I wish i didnt ask him that he justs started screaming and cursing.  I mean he gets like this once in a while but not since i have been pregnant. Ive been married for five years.  I get extremely scared of him when he is like this cause he starts punching things like first in the begginning it was the shower curtain rod he broke off and bended it into pieces, then the mirror in the bathroom he smashed , then the hole in the wall he puched and he has thrown things too. And now yesterday night a even bigger hole in another wall that he decided to punch.  He even tore my pillow i had since i was a year old.  Of course I cry and that makes him angrier.  He goes on like this for a while and he always blames me for getting him like this. I hate him when he is like this.  I dont know what to do.  I try and stay quiet while this happens cause it only seems to make him worst when i speak.  But now I have reached a point where I am extremely scared and dont know what to do cause I dont want to have my baby be around this.  I have asked him to seek help but the empty promises has gotten old and so is the "i'm sorry". What should I do?

[margypops]

I agree with you that this isnt good for the baby and I think it would be a good idea for you to have a discussion with him and tell him it is not okay and he needs to address this issue, perhaps he needs counselling in Anger, it does sound like it.If he want s you to stay in his life it is time to be firm and not allow this, the baby will suffer, you will end up leaving anyway so get it fixed now ,if it cant be fixed, the you have to leave .He is out of control, staying quiet is not the answer I do believe you firmly have to stand up to bullies, or it will never end.Good Luck let us know how it goes.

[ctf0]

that is definitly not the enviroment you want for your child, he needs to get this sorted, you said your tired of the empty promises, maybe you should just pack up and move away for a while, have a break so that he realises how much he needs you and he will seek help just to get you back, or go with him when he sorts everything out, he mighnot admit it but he might just be scared and he might need you, but whatever happens i wish you good luck.

[caregiver222]

Mt two cents, from a male standpoint, is that his behavior is totally unacceptable. I really hesitate to suggest you consider breaking up, however malignant personalities do not improve with counseling, time, or patience.  I don't like anything about this person from your description of his behavior. There is another person to consider - the baby. Divorce after a baby is very serious. I suggest you have a consultation with at attorney.