how to control others anger and madness

[suchi901]

my boy frnd loves me ,i loves him very much ,but how he is getting anger very frequently how to control him ,manage him what words to say i dont know what to do at that situations how to change him ,his mind was unstable

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[margypops]

I am not certain how to vote on this, it is not good he gets very angry, here we would say to him he must get some counselling for us to want the relationship, I dont think you can control anyone else, he has to want to change and stop the anger. If his mind is unstable it would be good for him to visit the Doctor for help. You are in a differant culture In India, My answer to an American would be run for the hills, but it isnt always quite like that in other places and I appreciate that . Good Luck , he does need help if marriage was in the offing,, let him get help before you venture there.

[allmymarbles]

is it possible you are rubbing each other the wrong way? Some personalities are not compatible. Examine your own attitudes to see if you are playing a part in his anger. There is another possibility. Sometimes spoiled children (I don't know the age of your son) will throw a tantrum if they don't get their own way. Have you been spoiling him? It would help to know how old he is.

[Judy246]

You can't control him at all. The only person that you can control is you. Communication is key in all relationships and it's important to discuss (not fight or argue) issues that need to be addressed. You approach him at the right time and tell him that you would like to talk to him about what's on your mind and tell him that your concern about his escalating escalating anger and how can you best help him with what is bothering him.

Remember that what is unexceptable is if he verbally or physically abuses you or controls you to the point of fear and insecurities.  Good luck...Judy

[Dazon50]

I don't think you can control others who are angry or mad.  I would vote with Margy to "run for the hill" to coin the american phrase.  That is a definte "red flag" which is another way of saying....warning, warning, danger ahead...alert, alert.

Ignore the red flag at your own peril.

Think about it.  How will you know 100 percent of the time: what not to say, what not to do to set him off.  What about "outside influences"?  When others set him off & he takes it out on you because he can't control himself?

He needs to get help because he wants it, not just to please you.  Would it last when done for the wrong reasons?  You need to do some serious thinking.  Is this someone who has been chosen for you by your family that will lead to marriage?  If so, would your family listen to your concerns & sweep them aside?  

Wishing the best in working it out,
:-)