Anxiety and Marriage always worring

[pain309]

I hate it because of my anxiety I question if my wife love me or if she would ever leave me, she is very beautiful and I hear stuff on the radio about women or men that have been with their loved ones for years and have been cheating for months.  And their loved ones think that it would never happen, so please please give me some advice on how to deal with my insecure anxiety that I feel for my wife, I love her to death and feel that some guy is going to swept her off her feet, even though she said I was that guy.  Women what should I believe or not believe, also she works at a bar so I worry that some D***H*** is going to disrespect her or try and take her away.  There are guys that are pieces of **** at bars that will touch or talk to women anyway they want which really pisses me off so please women tell me what you think or men what you think.

[allie3656]

did you have these insecurities before you married her? or have they just started? i too have those insecurities. i was constently questioning and testing my ex if he loved me or would he leave. but now that i successfully drove him away with those insecurities, i realized what i was doing and through therapy have learned that it's because of abandonment issues. you have to train your brain that "she loves me and she's not going anywhere." it will take time, but trust me it took time to get those insecure thoughts it will take time to get secure thoughts. good luck.

[jakegorzen]

Looks like the green eyed giants coming out.

You have to get a handle on this, and throw out the "what ifs" and just live.
By the way your talking, its sounds like you might have been neglecting doing special things for her.
I can tell you that insecurities can make a person more likely that something will happen that is not in there favor.

Please trust your wife, thats the reason why you married her right?
And Im sure thats why she married you.
You always have to give your trust, and if for some reason things do happen to not work out, then it was meant to be.
Sorry, I dont mean to sound harsh.