I am a seperated father of two children, who shares them a weekend out of two with my ex girlfriend. We`re on very friendly terms, and have been for several years.
Recently we`vebeen worried about our oldest daughter, who seems to be having panic attacks. She will get cold sweats, nausea, and behave in a way I can describe as "acting crazy". She`ll stay seated in the same place grasping her hair and her stomach, wailing and crying. Usually, my ex told me it happens shortly after she`s been put to bed for the night, she`ll wake up and tell my ex she isnt feeling well, and shortly after it will start. She isnt a big girl, and as such for several years, we`ve put more pressure on her to finish her plates, eat a little bit more. Not forcefull, but firm pressure. Now, it`s at the point where she barely eats, saying it makes her sick. I`ve tried to ease off and not put pressure, now she eats less than ever. After speaking with her at lenght, she says she has no idea why she has these attacks, and that they happen by themselves. Her last one was saturday morning, when shortly after arriving at my home with her sister for my weekend with them, she went into a panic saying she wanted to be with her mother. I explained to her that wasnt possible, and she exploded. I tried calming her down, but it got to a point where I myself got angry and yelled at her, in a way I never have in her life. I apologised to her latter on because I said some hurtfull things, which I regretted, and I`m not someone who explodes like that, but I was so angry at her actingin a way she never has in her entire life.
We have made plans to meet with a psychologist who will try and help us understand what is going on, my knowledge of how to deal with this situation is very limited. Iwas reading about disorders and fell upon Seperation Anxiety. Idont know.
Anyways, Any advice on how to deal with this would be appreciated.On how to act with myself as well.