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Anxiety from a former friend/bully
Hi guys, I've had some problems with somebody in the past allow me to tell you a little about my story:
Back about a year ago, at the start of 7th grade (age of 12) I made a best friend with a new student who came to our school. Both of us had lots and lots of fun, we were having the time of our lives. We've been friends for the whole 7th grade. But, near the middle of the year in 7th grade, Lots of other friends and I made a sports team. (excluding that new friend.) ever since then, my new best friend has been arguing a whole lot with me, bullying me, saying rude things about some of my friends on the sports team, teasing me , and it goes on. At that time, it seems like my friend has changed into a different person, and that person is a HUGE jerk, he ruined most of the school year, and at that time him and i were always hanging out at lunch breaks, recess, etc. He was being the worst person i ever met. Even though he was like this, i stayed his friend, until at some point near the end of the year, I decided to not be his friend anymore, cause I just couldn't take it! I couldn't sleep at night some nights, maybe because of anxiety.
So that's the main story, but I will show you the main part: My former friend used to say "don't try to be cool, only idiots do that!" and I actually didn't always be cool.
After me and my friend weren't friends: He has been showing off in front of others, doing everything he told me not to do, and he was and still tries to get lots of attention, but nobody cares. This tells me smackdown right that he was jealous of me (the school sport team) although I really don't care about getting attention.
Now, every time I think about that jerk, I get stuck in a HUGE anxiety problem pls help!
Back about a year ago, at the start of 7th grade (age of 12) I made a best friend with a new student who came to our school. Both of us had lots and lots of fun, we were having the time of our lives. We've been friends for the whole 7th grade. But, near the middle of the year in 7th grade, Lots of other friends and I made a sports team. (excluding that new friend.) ever since then, my new best friend has been arguing a whole lot with me, bullying me, saying rude things about some of my friends on the sports team, teasing me , and it goes on. At that time, it seems like my friend has changed into a different person, and that person is a HUGE jerk, he ruined most of the school year, and at that time him and i were always hanging out at lunch breaks, recess, etc. He was being the worst person i ever met. Even though he was like this, i stayed his friend, until at some point near the end of the year, I decided to not be his friend anymore, cause I just couldn't take it! I couldn't sleep at night some nights, maybe because of anxiety.
So that's the main story, but I will show you the main part: My former friend used to say "don't try to be cool, only idiots do that!" and I actually didn't always be cool.
After me and my friend weren't friends: He has been showing off in front of others, doing everything he told me not to do, and he was and still tries to get lots of attention, but nobody cares. This tells me smackdown right that he was jealous of me (the school sport team) although I really don't care about getting attention.
Now, every time I think about that jerk, I get stuck in a HUGE anxiety problem pls help!
Mammo could not have said it better. What wonderful advice. I have a child a little older than you and I, as a parent, would want to know what is going on. So get your parents involved. They are your best advocate and will storm the gates if need be! You just need to tell them the kind of help you are looking for. Congratulations on being the bigger man!
Hi. What happened here is your friend is very insecure and didn't want you to get involved in sports or anything else because he feared he would lose his best and maybe only friend.
But we grow as individuals and that's what you were doing by getting involved and spreading your wings a bit. But your friend couldn't accept this and took his anger out on you. Being his friend you tried to stay by his side and it did you more harm than good. His lashing out at you and your team members was out of anger and his own insecurities. Jealous....maybe, I think more envious that you had the ability to move on and make other friends and he couldn't. You can't take anything he has said personally, you have to pity someone like him. I think you're better off not having this guy in your life, he has a lot of anger and needs to get help. Bullies are very insecure and you will run into them even as an adult. Picking on others makes them feel big, and it's best to stay away from people like that. If this kid is causing you a lot of problems at school talk to your counselor or the principal to get it stopped. Don't allow his words or actions define who and what you are, rise above this. You sound like a mature, well adjusted guy and can't let his actions take this away from you. Try journaling your feelings, it's a form of release for us and is very therapeutic. Talk to your parents about this, therapy would help you so much with your anxiety. I feel your anxiety all stems from how this guy treated you, but know he has insecurities and this is why he is a show-off. Let him do his thing and you surround yourself with more positive friends. Decide to let go of the past and no longer be his victim. Enjoy this time of your life and avoid negative people. I hope this helps and talk to your parents, they would want to know about your anxiety. Take care and always take the high road!
But we grow as individuals and that's what you were doing by getting involved and spreading your wings a bit. But your friend couldn't accept this and took his anger out on you. Being his friend you tried to stay by his side and it did you more harm than good. His lashing out at you and your team members was out of anger and his own insecurities. Jealous....maybe, I think more envious that you had the ability to move on and make other friends and he couldn't. You can't take anything he has said personally, you have to pity someone like him. I think you're better off not having this guy in your life, he has a lot of anger and needs to get help. Bullies are very insecure and you will run into them even as an adult. Picking on others makes them feel big, and it's best to stay away from people like that. If this kid is causing you a lot of problems at school talk to your counselor or the principal to get it stopped. Don't allow his words or actions define who and what you are, rise above this. You sound like a mature, well adjusted guy and can't let his actions take this away from you. Try journaling your feelings, it's a form of release for us and is very therapeutic. Talk to your parents about this, therapy would help you so much with your anxiety. I feel your anxiety all stems from how this guy treated you, but know he has insecurities and this is why he is a show-off. Let him do his thing and you surround yourself with more positive friends. Decide to let go of the past and no longer be his victim. Enjoy this time of your life and avoid negative people. I hope this helps and talk to your parents, they would want to know about your anxiety. Take care and always take the high road!
Oh and I forgot to mention that I have no idea why or how I have this problem with anxiety.
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