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Anxious to be hit
I know what I am going to say is ridiculous to somebody, but please do listen to me and give me some advice.
Here it is:
I saw a post of a page on facebook. Then I saw a comment that sounded quite annoying even though there is somebody supported it.After that, I had a couple of comments with the owner of the comment, he seemed to be quite rude to me for I was against with the comment (that sounds like a quarrel) though I talked to him quite politely, after a short time, I quitted talking to him than I thought that what if he tried to hunt me, try to meet me and hit or even kill (do something harmful to my health). After a short time, I deleted all the comments as well as blocked him ( He can't see me on the facebook anymore).
The thing is: I know where he is, which is quite far from where I am (about more than 300km), he is younger than me and I think that he doesn't know where I live. But the thought of being hunted or even killed by him always around my mind, my girflfriend told me that he can do nothing harmful to me for he lived too far from here and he even didn't know who I am, but you know that, I can't stop thinking about it. Please do give me some advice to quit thinking this.
Here it is:
I saw a post of a page on facebook. Then I saw a comment that sounded quite annoying even though there is somebody supported it.After that, I had a couple of comments with the owner of the comment, he seemed to be quite rude to me for I was against with the comment (that sounds like a quarrel) though I talked to him quite politely, after a short time, I quitted talking to him than I thought that what if he tried to hunt me, try to meet me and hit or even kill (do something harmful to my health). After a short time, I deleted all the comments as well as blocked him ( He can't see me on the facebook anymore).
The thing is: I know where he is, which is quite far from where I am (about more than 300km), he is younger than me and I think that he doesn't know where I live. But the thought of being hunted or even killed by him always around my mind, my girflfriend told me that he can do nothing harmful to me for he lived too far from here and he even didn't know who I am, but you know that, I can't stop thinking about it. Please do give me some advice to quit thinking this.
In addition staying distracted, you can do a few other things to help break the cycle.
When you notice that you're ruminating about this, or worrying a lot, say to yourself (out loud even, that helps) things like "Enough! NO more!". You have to come up with things like that, self-talk methods that directs your brain to be done with that thought. It takes some time and practice, but it works.
I would recommend posting in the OCD forum as well, as the methods they use are the exact thing you need to stop the intrusive thoughts. Look for a thread there by the community leader, JGF entitled "Anatomy of a Horrific Thought". Great info there!
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/Obsessive-Compulsive-Disorder-OCD-/show/231
Good luck!
When you notice that you're ruminating about this, or worrying a lot, say to yourself (out loud even, that helps) things like "Enough! NO more!". You have to come up with things like that, self-talk methods that directs your brain to be done with that thought. It takes some time and practice, but it works.
I would recommend posting in the OCD forum as well, as the methods they use are the exact thing you need to stop the intrusive thoughts. Look for a thread there by the community leader, JGF entitled "Anatomy of a Horrific Thought". Great info there!
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/Obsessive-Compulsive-Disorder-OCD-/show/231
Good luck!
You were right about the facts that I exaggerated things on FB. But one thing I would like to ask is that in which way I could dismiss my fear as well as take its power away from it apart from getting busy in life because you know there is time that we certainly don't involve in any task of our life.
Your suggesting method is quite interesting. I will try it. I will tell you how things are going on. Many thanks
It sounds to me like the amount of anxiety you have over this is disproportionate to the worry. Of course, if he HAD threatened you, or if things had gotten VERY heated and out of hand, you would be justified to have that fear. It sounds more like a couple opposing (heated) opinions were shared and that was that. That happens ALL of the time on FB and people certainly aren't out beating others up over their FB comments, or killing them. You've allowed your mind to run with this one. You have to remember that FEAR IS NOT FACT!
The facts are, even though someone might have disagreed with you, and even gotten nasty, MOST people are reasonable and certainly aren't going to risk legal issues by committing assault, certainly not over a FB argument. Most people also realize that posting things on a social media site often leads to some spats and snarky comments. Most people accept that as reality and know it comes with the territory. Most people usually forget about it quickly.
I would recommend trying to distract yourself and get yourself busy with life. The best way to overcome an irrational fear is to dismiss it and take the power away from it. The more you fuel the fear by continuing to check FB, and continue to think about it, the more anxious you will become.
If you find you cannot move on and put it behind you, I would recommend getting some professional help to address the anxiety. Good luck to you!
The facts are, even though someone might have disagreed with you, and even gotten nasty, MOST people are reasonable and certainly aren't going to risk legal issues by committing assault, certainly not over a FB argument. Most people also realize that posting things on a social media site often leads to some spats and snarky comments. Most people accept that as reality and know it comes with the territory. Most people usually forget about it quickly.
I would recommend trying to distract yourself and get yourself busy with life. The best way to overcome an irrational fear is to dismiss it and take the power away from it. The more you fuel the fear by continuing to check FB, and continue to think about it, the more anxious you will become.
If you find you cannot move on and put it behind you, I would recommend getting some professional help to address the anxiety. Good luck to you!
Green man, I understand your dilemma.When you try to forget certain thing you are in a denial stage. In this way, you will not be free from nagging feeling of fear against this man. The best thing would be genera opposite feeling. Every morning remember him and menially argue that this person is not bad, he has no bad intention against me. we are friends. In short create opposite feeling. This will help you to be free the fear fear of this man but it will help you to be free from all things you fear now. This is mental,and spiritual technique..
We all have some nagging fear of something for which we may not be aware. This fear sends trigger to some muscles to contract.If we scan our body part mentally we may find some muscles contracted. Releasing this muscleI, may free you from fear. I think if you Google coping mecahanism for such fear, you will find similar technique.Please take this advise very lightly. I have mentioned this primarily for future serious situations.Wish you best of luck.Practice this techniqu for 21 days to get positive results.
We all have some nagging fear of something for which we may not be aware. This fear sends trigger to some muscles to contract.If we scan our body part mentally we may find some muscles contracted. Releasing this muscleI, may free you from fear. I think if you Google coping mecahanism for such fear, you will find similar technique.Please take this advise very lightly. I have mentioned this primarily for future serious situations.Wish you best of luck.Practice this techniqu for 21 days to get positive results.
Thanks a lot. It seems to me that he doesn't threaten me. But you know, that thought is always running around my head.
One thing that I notice is that I stop thinking temporarily about that by concentrating on playing sports or games. But for the long run, I don't know if it works or not
One thing that I notice is that I stop thinking temporarily about that by concentrating on playing sports or games. But for the long run, I don't know if it works or not
We have seen some derogatory remarks in community or in groups. Never heard of any physical violence.A killer usually do not participate in social website. we can have disagreement. There are just verbal one. It may excite one for some time but then simmers down after a time.So do not worry.
Plus, I don't think I am feeling guilty for what I said, I am just scared of being hit or even killed by him
Actually what I said to him is quite reasonable in a very polite way, no taboo words (even though he had said some to me), I have set private all my information and pictures, although there is not any address in my facebook, just pictures and where I live, which has already been set to friend-see only. Anyway, thanks for your comment.
As long as you have all your information private from him and never gave him your personal information he can't find you and I doubt that he is going to drive around looking for you based off a fb comment. Know what I mean? Maybe you feel guilty about what you said to him?? Idk but truly I don't think you have anything to fret about!
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