Attached and worried

[808girl09]

Hello, I am new to this site but I have had anxiety for at least seven years now. My anxiety attacks are off and on, sometimes I have many, sometimes I have none. Lately I have been having extreme anxiety attacks again. I am definitely very stressed out and over worked. I have all my normal symptoms except one. I am extremely attached to my other half. I constantly want him around and when he's not I'm always worried about him. Sometimes all i can think about is a million things that might be going wrong with him, so i call or text him. Sometimes i work short five hour shifts but still find myself hiding to text or call… Im not used to this… Does anyone else have this problem or know where this could have came from?

[cmac21]

That is my whole life lol! I worry a lot about medical stuff, and I know I should not worry. I am in my late 20s, exercise regularly, eat a blanaced diet, I don't really drink, and have up smoking almost 4 years ago. I have had a stress test and EKGs done, and everything has come back just fine. BUT because I get a lot of physical symptoms of anxiety, I can't help but worry/think that there is actually something wrong with me like a disease or something. So ya, I worry about things that I know I shouldn't, but it is hard not to.

This is where therapy comes into play. I know that I need to get myself back into therapy, but it is quite expensive, and my benefits will only cover about 5 sessions a year, which at this point, I don't think is going to be enough. My doctor is reluctant to send me to a psychariatrist (which is 100% covered where I live) becuase they are pill pushers. There are some workbooks that are helpful, and I do have a meditation cd that I listen to before bed that I do find helpful. Do you have any coverage that you can get into some sort of therapy?

[808girl09]

Thanks your comments really are so helpful. Do you ever get the feeling that you know you shouldn't/ you don't have to worry about something but then you worry anyways. It's like I know it's just my anxiety sometimes and I know that I shouldn't be worrying about certain things but then I worry about it anyways. Does that ever happen to you?

[cmac21]

Well that is anxiety. You are worrying about bad things that COULD happen. I was like that too at the beginning of my anxiety. If my husband was a little late getting home from work I worried that something happened. Anxiety is all about fear, and not being able to be in control.

If there is anything that I have learned from my experiences with anxiety, it is that we can't control everything. Bad things sometimes happen to good people, but for the most part we can't control those things. And being fearful of them is not going to do any good either. I know it is extremely difficult to just get over it, or be ok with the idea that we never really know what tomorrow holds, but we have to if we want to live a decent life. I know I am tired of always think what if. I mean, yeah, I'm young and not ready to leave this earth, but at the end of the day, I can only control that to a certain extent, so I need to make sure that I make the most of my days, and try and trust that things will be ok.

It may be helpful for you to maybe get into short term counselling to deal with what is going on at the current moment.

[808girl09]

Usually I am very good at controlling my anxiety I even got a hold of controlling my anxiety attacks by myself. But lately I've needed to talk to someone else to calm myself down. I'm usually very much in control but now I feel like I am not in control at all which causes me to be more worried and anxious.

[808girl09]

It gets really bad sometimes like when I know he's driving or doing something that could possibly lead him to getting hurt or not being there I freak out. I start calling and texting like crazy but I don't want him to think I'm being clingy or crazy. I have never been like this before. Idk what to do I'm so conflicted and stressing out about it.

[cj29]

In my experience with anxiety, it tends to manifest itself in a viarity of ways.  You said that you have had anxiety for seven years now.  In my opinion, anxiety can definitely ebb and flow....throughout the past seven years, have you had success in confronting your anxiety?  If you have, can you apply what you have learned in the past?  Also, since the anxiety has been worse lately, do you have access to a counselor to talk it through?  

[cmac21]

I think this is normal. I feel like that too sometimes because I feel like if something happens to me( because I feel like I can't breathe sometimes along with a plethora of other physical symptoms directly from anxiety) he will be there to get me the medical attention I need, or to reassure me that what I feel is just anxiety and not life threatening.