Can Anxiety Change Your Thoughts/Emotions/Feelings?

I have been with my girlfriend for 10 months now. When we first started going out I felt like im really in love. Like she made me happy, she made me feel good about myself. I was very scared that she might leave me because I had a bad experience before with my first girlfriend and I got cheated on, So I was really scared that she might leave me and I had hard time trusting her but in couple of occasions she really proved that she loves me and I even read her diary and the things she wrote about me was like something you would see on movies. So I trusted her and things got better. But from two weeks ago I have been feeling like I don’t love her as I used to do before and sometimes this makes me really sad because I don’t want to hurt her. Its like I don’t know if I really love her or not anymore and its really bothering me. Our sexual life has been a mess in the past week as I don’t get turned on anymore. She told me why and I was like I don’t know I just have a lot of stress in my life. Well I suffer from anxiety and im thinking maybe my anxiety is causing all these thoughts and I really do lover her but I just think about not loving her and the anxiety makes it worse and its just all messed up. I don’t know but this is really bothering me. She is one of those girls that im sure will never cheat on me, lie to me and she truly loves me.

[SassyLassie]

Well, anxiety can certainly cause these feelings, but, try to remember, the "excitement" that you felt the first few weeks or months will not always be that high, and that is good, after a while you both should just really enjoy being with each other, that "High" feeling is fine for a while, but, it will leave, and if the relationship is meant to be, you will both just start enjoying each others company and being together. I am sure she loves you and I am sorry you are having doubts, I know that is no fun for you. Just sort of sit back, and access the situation, make a list of all the things you both have in common, your fun times, etc. Then, on another list, write down your doubts and why. Maybe this will help.

If you are a Christian, you might also pray on this, asking the Lord if she is the "one" for you, that is what I do, He will answer, maybe not the way you want, but you will get an answer.

Hope this helps.

[John23a]

thank you for your post ...it made me feel better
well until few weeks ago i wasnt feeling like this and i have been going through so much lately with my anxiety and i think that this is all caused by me going through rough times the past few days..shes really an angel and i just dont want to hurt her because i know that she loves me and i just dont want to every break her heart..but i wish i could get my thoughts together..i have been depressed all day today thinking if i really love her or not..first i wasnt sure if she loves me or not i would be dying for her but now that i know she truly loves me and wont ever cheat on me i feel like im confused about this whole situation..