Can you just stop loving someone

[MixieIsGettingBetter]

I was in a therepy session on sunday...and all of a sudden the theripist asks me a question and i just started balling and saying i didnt love my fiance....all theese emotions just spilled out of me...here is the thing though...i know I love him very much...its just now i cant get that session off my mind...he is not abusive and he is a really awsome guy, and man i would be devestated if we broke up...but all of a sudden i want to run away from him, from therepy from everything....the theripst and my mom and best friend and him all think i still love him and something else is going on...but i cant shake this feeling...please help

[suzi-q]

Is it possible that you love him, but are not "in love" with him?  You have to do what is right for you and follow your heart.  

[396SS]

I have felt like I wanted to just take off and live on some deserted island before too - seriously.  I love my husband to death, but I think it is just a response to stress - fight or flight and you wanna pick flight at that moment you know?  You should definitely discuss the feelings with your therapist.  Just remember it is just a thought you had, you are not acting on it.  You didn't break up with him, so it's just a thought right now and nothing else.  Unfortunately, therapy can suck sometimes, as it isn't all rosy and warm/fuzzy.  You have to explore thoughts you don't want to, but it's perfectly healthy (i'm told by my therapist:) to have thoughts like that that scare you.  You do have to explore the option of do you love or are you "in love" with the person.  it's not a concrete or easy idea to figure out sometimes.  But that's what the therapist will help you do, so trust in them and let yourself be open - just like you are doing!  See, you are actually a good therapy patient.....what's the point if you don't explore things you don't ever want to?

Take care and agreed - follow your heart and what is best for YOU and you'll be okay.