How do I deal with this..

So I took my family trip this past weekend and it was great even stayed extra day. No anxiety attack except one very small one and that was because we went to chuck e cheese and it was a lot of screaming kids. Anyhow I'm saying I had a great time.

Up until I got back home and soon as I got off the freeway I had to go into work. They act like they can't handle things without me. I instantly got a headach heart started pounding chest started hurting couldn't breath right. Felt dizzy. All my typical anxiety symptoms ( that I didn't deal with and didn't miss over the weekend) my fiance said to me"is it home or work or cleveland itself giving you anxiety because you haven't talked about it since we been here" which made me think about it because I didn't notice I haven't talked about it.

I'm asking my fellow suffers how do I deal with my anxiety being caused from work when at this point I can't quit and its very hard to get into another job like this in my field. I'm puzzled and very full of anxiety. Most people don't get it when I say I love my job I just don't know how to deal with the people anymore.. They are very rude and inconsiderate and idk I just don't know how to deal with them they make me short tempered and I just want the day to end..

Any advice would be helpful. Thanks.

[greenlydia]

I'd strongly suggest getting into therapy. If you honestly love your job but can't stand the people you work with, then you need to figure out what has changed the equation. Are these people all new and your sort of the "dinosaur" of the group? Are you older and more experienced than your co-workers? Are they jealous of you or vice versa? There must be something going on below the surface. Your fiance had some good questions and I think it would help a great deal if you explored those with a therapist.
Life is too short to stay at a job that, while you love it, those you must work with have turned it into a place filled with anxiety.
If you absolutely cannot find the same work elsewhere, then a therapist will help you learn to deal with the jerks at work and restore your sense of self-worth. Which sounds to me has taken a beating of late.
Just don't go down without one hell of a fight!
You show 'em girl
Peace
Greenlydia

[greenlydia]

I'd strongly suggest getting into therapy. If you honestly love your job but can't stand the people you work with, then you need to figure out what has changed the equation. Are these people all new and your sort of the "dinosaur" of the group? Are you older and more experienced than your co-workers? Are they jealous of you or vice versa? There must be something going on below the surface. Your fiance had some good questions and I think it would help a great deal if you explored those with a therapist.
Life is too short to stay at a job that, while you love it, those you must work with have turned it into a place filled with anxiety.
If you absolutely cannot find the same work elsewhere, then a therapist will help you learn to deal with the jerks at work and restore your sense of self-worth. Which sounds to me has taken a beating of late.
Just don't go down without one hell of a fight!
You show 'em girl
Peace
Greenlydia

[Cntbreal]

Hey hun. You made great points there. That I didn't think about but I'm in therapy now but have yet to talk about my job which at first I didn't think was a factor or a key player in my anxiety. But I kinda drew back some in therapy after they told me "they really can't help me to much, they said they are their like a bandage on a bullet wound" so they sending me to a physiatrist whom is waiting on my records from the therapist before they make my appt.

Its been a well over a week and they still have yet to receive my records... So I'm just waiting and still seeing the therapist once every two weeks.

I can't figure out why they are the way they are. They are all older then me way older they are all family. And most important they know nothing about the job like I do. They had no schooling or training. I used to love going into work everyday they used to make my job fun. But now, now they make me want to just ugh idk.. Nothing I do satisfy them the more I do the more they want.

Anyhow now I know I need to bring this up in therapy to see what they say. I don't want to quit but I also don't want to get fired for telling them off one day. A person can only take so much.

Thanks again hun your advice always helps alot..

[Cntbreal]

Oh p.s.

My fiance says all the time. "its time to move on from this job it was only supposed to be temporary" I have been in this field for 6 1/2 years.

When he say that it gives me more anxiety. Its all crazy.

But trust greenlydia I won't go down without a fight one hell of a fight at that. You said that right.. And I'm going to keep pushing and trying my damndest to make it last as long as I can..

Again thanks you gave me a lot to think about

[Liluykj]

Hello Cntbreal,
I work in an enviroment that causes me these anxiety attacks. I was able to request FMLA because of them. When I am having one attack at the work place I always keep paper bags in my drawers and go for a walk breathing in and out of the back. I also placed pictures on my desk of what make me happy. It is not much, but it does help some. It also helps to not talk about work when at home and concentrate on the things that you love doing. Another thing that it seems to be helping me is I joined a Zumba class which makes me sooo tired and stress free.

[Cntbreal]

Hey hun.

Thanks for the advice I will be sure to use them and hopefully they work for me also.. Fmla what us that I'm not familiar with it?? You know I do bring it home with me alot. talking about it that its. I talk about it ask the time at home.

Its hard to not talk about it though. How do you not talk about it?? Im wondering of I'm giving out to much of my time? Hum!! Starting tomorrow I'm gonna try to leave work there and not bring it home.

I was working 7 days a week 11 hours a day for two years up until about a month sharp I demanded every other weekend off needed that piece of mind and time away. They wouldn't give me holidays off and thought that giving me a little extra money on holidays would help but it didn't it made it worst..

They get mad when I'm there they mad even when I'm not there can't make them happy and I don't try any more I do my job and go home.