I feel so alone

[jklmn]

Hello everyone,
Just wanted to share my feelings with you guys..
I am feeling so lonely lately. I work full time and have a very successful professional life, but  that hardly leaves me time for my personal adult life. . I come home from work and spend every night and weekend with my son (whom I adore) or my parents. I don’t have time to date or hang out with my friends. Everyone has abandoned me because of it. I feel like my life is passing me by so fast and I am on the sideline watching helplessly.
In addition to not having much time for my friends, I also am known for having a short temper. I think I push people away way too fast without ever giving them another chance.... hence me being single at 30. I feel like I have so much anger built up inside of me that I just cant help it sometime. I often feel like, if I don’t stand my ground then it will be a sign of weakness and I wont have it any other way. I become extremely angry, my heart start to race fast, and I cant think straight. I lost the love of my life and my best friend because of this attitude. I am well aware of this problem and I know that it is a huge flaw in my personality, but no matter how hard I try to control myself, I just cant help it.
I don’t blame people for not wanting to have anything to do with me, but at the end of the day I feel so alone.

Does anyone have any advise for ?

[bip]

I work alot full times nights and in the day I take care of my 2 boyz. Im married but I never see him.  when  he gets home I leave for work. I never talk to my friends anymore sometime I feel like my life is work, and taking care kids. Could you have your parents watch your son so you can go out. Once in awhile  we need to go out and have fun.  Maybe you can have your son join something and you will be able to meet new people . When I take my kids to the park I see other moms and we start talking.  I hope thing go well with you. Ever since I started working I did meet new people and that made me feel good. Do you talk to  people at work?  I hope things go well with you.  


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[suzi-q]

You seem very angry at the way your life is at the moment.  You probably saw yourself in a different place at 30.  You are not alone...many of us have lives that didn't work out the way we planned it, oh so long ago....but that doesn't mean that your life can't be truly great the way it is now...Everything happens for a reason....if you don't like something, you need to change it. Like the above poster said, can you network at your job?  Can your parents watch your son one night a week so you can socialize?  If not, what about a babysitter?  Needing time for "YOU" doesn't make you a bad parent.  We all need time for ourselves and it actually makes us better parents.  When you are content with your life, you radiate it onto others.  You can make a choice...you can be bitter and wallow in self-pity or take a positive action and take steps to change it.  Maybe an anger management course might help?  (since you said you are very short with people).  Plan your work and then work your plan....BEST TO YOU!!

[MOTAH]

I know exactly what you mean.

You need to change your lifestyle & "understand" that work is not everything in life. We do work a lot & we work more when we're successful but we forget that we need time to enjoy our success rather than using all our time to become MORE successful.

In my opinion, work very hard in finding a hobby that involves you getting out of the house. commit to that hobby & that could be a great way to meet new people to your life.

if you like your hobby, you'll dedicate time for it & obviously it will mean that you'll commit to seeing your new freinds in your new hobby & may be one day that time you'll spend doing your hobby will be the highlight of the day to you.

Remember, a hobby means relaxing & NOT talking about work with others you meet in your hobby, it means that you talk about useless staff like news, weather, fashion, etc.... but NOT work.

if you stick to that rule, you'll have a lot of friends around you & you'll never be alone again.

I done that myself & realised that most likely people that are in gym, tennis court, even having coffee at a cafe are more likely to be freindly & willing to know new friends.

cheers,

[Northcoast]

Hi, I feel for you.  I guess my advice is to pick up the phone and call an old friend and ask to go out for coffee or a walk so you can catch up.  You can even say that you realize that you missed them and wanted to try to reconnect.  If your anger issues pushed them away, you can apologize for hurting them and say that you're working on your issues.  The anger management class sounds like a good idea.  Or counseling.  Sometimes just a change of routine helps.  I wish you well!  Everything is going to be just fine!