I hope for a answer tonight.

My anxiety level is so high tonight..
My daughter and her husband bought a cabin up north about 3 hours away , they snowmobile alot.  She wants my and her dad to come up for about 4 days and spend time with her and my 2 grandsons. They have been up there for abot 5 days now and I miss them terrible.  But my anxiety level is so high just thinking about going that far away.  My heart is skipping and Im so mad at myself for even feeling this.  Please can someone help?

[Tara115]

Do you have any xanex??  I have terrible anxiety, I had to fly for the first time ever and I was a wreck,  i took xanex, which i NEVER take and it helped me, I had no fear of getting on a plane at all it was great, and I had no side effects.  Just try to think of it like you are only with your husband,  your not trapped and you are free to go home whenever you want,  you can always turn around.  your daughter will understand I promise.   I am on Lexapro daily for mine and I an good now.  i used to be afraid to go anywhere,  couldn't even leave the house.   Good luck

[fuzzy882]

Thank you so much.

[Tara115]

your welcome,  I hope it helped.  Anxiety is the most horrible thing in the world.

[jo929]

i have been there but you have to really try to talk yourself into calming down and be firm with yourself just say i am going to have a good time and no anxiety  i guess i dont understand why you are getting so exited think about it as an excitin experience one that you will enjoy            bless you and i hope you have a great time and calm down girl hope this helps some       jo  

[fuzzy882]

I hate this when it comes to running my life, and Yes I do have Xanax and am on Zoloft also. But I know I cannot let this come between me seeing my grandsons and my daughter.

Thanks so much Tara.

[fuzzy882]

Thanks to you too Jo.  I need a good stern talking to I guess.

[geri378]

i know how you feel i also miss out alot because of my anxiety. i won't go far because i feel like something bad is going to happen., so i stay close to home. anxiety is so horrible

[greenlydia]

You have agoraphobia! Has no doctor ever diagnosed you with this condition? It is usually and most commonly a "fear of open spaces." Which is why most agoraphobics end up house bound, afraid to venture even as far as their mail boxes! Is this you? Do you stay in the house and go nowhere, ever? Or is the thought of being in a car for three hours the problem? Agoraphobia usually is brought on by panic disorder. You have a panic attack in a particular place and then start avoiding going to that place. Then you have another panic attack in ANOTHER place and stop going there as well and then a third panic attack at a third location and I think you can see where this leads. Pretty soon you just stay home to avoid the panic attacks. Has this happened to you? Are you afraid of traveling by car? Did something bad happen to you while you were driving at some point? Without more information as to how long and how severe you're agoraphobia has been going on, I can't offer much advice except to say get yourself, somehow, to a good mental health caregiver and tell them about this. It can be, in most cases, fixed, but the process can be long and costly. If you want to go an easier route, ask your doc for some Xanax for the trip. Have your husband drive the "back way" so you don't feel "stuck" or "trapped" on the freeway. Have him stop as often as you feel panicky and get out of the car and just walk around, take some deep breaths and feel good about yourself that you are making progress every mile you can stay in the car without a feeling of panic. Three hours is not a long time, even if you have to stop often, the end result for you will be so worth it as you say you miss your family so much. Once you are there, you can relax and hopefully talk to your family about these feelings and get some much needed support from them. But you do need to see a therapist or at the very least, your regular doctor and let them know how you are feeling. There is no reason to live your life with this fear..........you are cheating yourself out of so much. What you have is very common and is fixable...........don't waste anymore time! Good luck and keep us posted about your progress AND your trip to the cabin in the mountains! I am NOT a doctor, but have had severe panic disorder since I was 13. I am 56 now, so I do speak with a fair amount of experience! I have had panic attacks EVERYWHERE so I think it was impossible for me to become agoraphobic since I would just have to disappear into thin air! Where would I hide? I've had panic attacks in every room of my house, in my yard and garden and the wood shed and out by the compost pile and the chicken coop, at work at the mall on airplanes and buses and trains and in cars with my babies strapped in the back...............when I'm alone or in a crowd or with my best friend or my husband, when I'm calm or stressed or on vacation. Write back........I'm here a lot. Good luck!
Greenlydia  

[Suzzie205]

I feel for you sooooooooooo bad. I too have anxiety. I was in the same situation as you over New Years. My husband, son, daughter-in-law and granddaughter were spending 4 days in the desert about 90 minutes away. I wanted to go so bad but got my self so upset about being that far away from home. This is so stupid but I don't feel like I can control these feelings. I was mad at myself too. What I did was to have my father-in-law drive me there and we just stayed for one night then came home. Even the one night was scarey for me but I did do it. I feel like I miss out on so much because so this darn anxiety. I have a very active family with lots of camping trips and I always start having anxiety weeks before we're even suppose to go. So trust me when I say I do feel your pain. Best of luck to you and hopefully you can come up with a plan where yoy can go and be with your family. I know how painfull this all is.