My major form of anxiety

It looks like I have been able to cope with many things that can cause anxiety except one.  If I have a conflict with someone especially if they are rude in any way I just get depressed or angry and it raises my blood pressure.  I know I should not even take a second thinkng about people who aren't a fit for me but I do.

What suggestions do you have for either not getting frustrated or upset or angry when dealing with a potentially difficult person?  

Thanks

[melyndamw]

I know exactley how you feel, every time I know there is gonna be a conflict, my heart races, my tummy turnes, I get shakey (shaky), it drives me crazy, then I get so mad I scream. I have a very difficult mother in law, every time she comes around or calls I get all these yuckey feelings, with the holidays here and I have to spend them with her do you have any suggestions for me? LOL. I always vent to my hubb and it makes me feel a little better. I'm sorry you feel like this to. Try to stay away from it. Good Luck.

[sam75]

try and focus on ur breathing from down low in your stomach, breath out and in slowly. as uslow ur breathing all your other symptoms will fade. it takes practice but it works. i suffer with anxiety but 4 the most part can manage it with controlled breathing. all the best.

[moonflower13]

I'm the same. I think I've improved lately, though. Learning to breathe correctly -with your stomach- helps. Also, drinking water, for some reason, helps me.

Unfortunately, many times we just can't avoid the other person; maybe it's our boss or someone who comes up to us and we can't get away. When I've just been in such a situation and someone's just been rude to me, as soon as the episode is over, I go someplace I feel safe -if can't be, at least somewhere I can be alone- and I try to think of something else. Hard to do at first, esp. if you're the reactive type or if you're very sensitive and get badly hurt by what people might say to you, but with a little discipline, it works. I visualize peaceful, quiet sceneries, like a beach, for example. Also works thinking of situations where you felt at peace, confident, safe, loved, appreciated or when you were having a relaxing and fun time; or times and situations that helped to raise your self-esteem, that made you feel powerful and able to do things well and make yourself happy.

The point is to stop focusing and rumminating on what just happened -it's making you more and more tense- and on that person, and shift your attention to something positive for you. You have to remember that you and your well-being are the most important thing, not the way someone treated you.

Good luck.