Aa
Need help please...
I haven't had a attack like this in a long time..I can't stop crying.i can;t breath...And I just sent the only person i want in my life 800 dollars and now he won't talk to me.,Nobody understands what true love is any more,it hardly exsist..I just don't understand how somebody that u love that much can hurt u so bad without feeling one ounce of guilt..I just don't understand what i ever did so wrong...I've been used twice now..all i ever wanted was him..i guess i'll never get to be happy
I feel bad for you. Be aware of the type of man you choose. Women tend to make bad choices especially if their fathers werent available to them growing up. Write down everything you like and dont like in a man, and next time be aware of the type you dont want and stay clear. I know its to soon to talk to you this way.
If you believe in God draw closer to Him. Find a relationship with Him. He is waiting for you. Get yourself in a good faith based church and you are bound to find a man that will truly love you.
If you believe in God draw closer to Him. Find a relationship with Him. He is waiting for you. Get yourself in a good faith based church and you are bound to find a man that will truly love you.
Many people may not like my post but I have to state my view. You are 18 with a 2 year old child with one on the way. Children are always blessings and I am sure that you are a great mom, but you need to stop basing your life on a man. You are supposed to be enjoying your life, but now with 2 children, this will be hindered. For future reference, please use birth control. Life is hard enough are you seem to keep making the same mistakes again and again. We all make mistakes, now learn from it.
Kick the man to the curb and focus on yourself and your children. Make yourself happy and them happy. Do you go to school? Do you have a job? Start working on establishing a career for yourself that you love. You love your children, now you have to love you without a man. Become an independent woman. This way, when you do meet a man in the future it won't be because you are needy...it will be because you enjoy each other. Nothing is more attractive than a woman who is sure of herself and who loves herself. You are way to young to get into "relationships". They very rarely work in this day and age. If you like, date many fellas and enjoy their company (date...no sex) and find what you like and don't like about a man. So then, when you are older you will know exactly what you want in your life. YOU DESERVE IT and so do you children. This is just my two cents.
Kick the man to the curb and focus on yourself and your children. Make yourself happy and them happy. Do you go to school? Do you have a job? Start working on establishing a career for yourself that you love. You love your children, now you have to love you without a man. Become an independent woman. This way, when you do meet a man in the future it won't be because you are needy...it will be because you enjoy each other. Nothing is more attractive than a woman who is sure of herself and who loves herself. You are way to young to get into "relationships". They very rarely work in this day and age. If you like, date many fellas and enjoy their company (date...no sex) and find what you like and don't like about a man. So then, when you are older you will know exactly what you want in your life. YOU DESERVE IT and so do you children. This is just my two cents.
even more butting in!!! i can totally relate, i was pregnant at 17 with my son, his dad is a complete using tool i gave him money the use of my car etc he promised me the earth and it was all lies he dont even see his son i dont even know where he is but u know what? i dont give a toss cause my son is now 14 and i done it all alone hes clever beautiful and all mine, he`s the only thing in my life im proud of, you will get through this no matter how hard and rough it feels right now, so NO MORE HAND OUTS to him just concentrate on your self and the baby
and worrying about him will make your anxiety so much worse x
and worrying about him will make your anxiety so much worse x
More butting in ....
I was 15 and alone when I had my first child and it completely turned everything around. Having my son gave me a reason not to go in the bad direction I was gravitating towards. There is no love like the love a mother has for her child. It more than makes up for the behavior of the loser you were in love with. Sorry for saying what I believe, maybe he's a really nice guy and maybe I'm the Queen of England. You don't need him. He'll only bring you down. A relationship built on lies and deception will only result in misery. I've been there.
When your baby is born and you see that perfect little person you will be part of the parents-for-good club. I hope you post some pictures of him/her.
I was 15 and alone when I had my first child and it completely turned everything around. Having my son gave me a reason not to go in the bad direction I was gravitating towards. There is no love like the love a mother has for her child. It more than makes up for the behavior of the loser you were in love with. Sorry for saying what I believe, maybe he's a really nice guy and maybe I'm the Queen of England. You don't need him. He'll only bring you down. A relationship built on lies and deception will only result in misery. I've been there.
When your baby is born and you see that perfect little person you will be part of the parents-for-good club. I hope you post some pictures of him/her.
Not to be a butt in either.. I remember the beginning with him and how he hurt you...You have to let go and move on...you have a new baby to focus on...I would make sure he pays for the baby....what comes around goes around...Deep down inside do you really want someone who can hurt you like he did....Some people are just not good!!....best of luck..
no its not fair to play with your heart. am so sorry , and now you have a sweet baby on its way. i hope you have help with the pg and that he will either love you and baby or leave you alone. sleep good tonight .
Its not even about being handsome..though shawn was not bad looking..I wish I could find a 9 to 5er..they don't exsist around here..
I know in the begining it was a lye but he promised everything was good now,, he called infront of her and everything..told me he loved me..I just don't get it...why some ppl ahve to do that..its just not fair..
I know in the begining it was a lye but he promised everything was good now,, he called infront of her and everything..told me he loved me..I just don't get it...why some ppl ahve to do that..its just not fair..
so sorry .but from the begaining yas relationship was a lie, he was a married man and you didnt know this, i hope hes not still married and your back with him. ive been married 24 years to love of my life so true love is out there and i hope for you and now two kids you find it, your only 18, you have plenty of time, but need to slow down on babies or you will be so tied down that you will never meet him. congrats on baby, i hope you have family that can help you out.
Not all handsome guys are nasty. I'm handsome but you'll never even see me because I have a social phobia so I rarely leave this room :) I have a friend who is really handsome though, and he is a really nice guy. Also, he is one of the few people I have met in my entire life, who really doesn't have any "real" problems. Most people I know have some kind of problem. Emotional problem I mean. I have on friend who lies constantly, probably because he has some kind of self esteem issue that he has to lie about everything. And I have on friend who is really clingy and gets angry with his friends if they ever do anything without him etc.. But this other friend of mine has nothing like that. He works hard 9 to 5, he comes home and relaxes, and he never has much luck with girls. He often dates but the girls all seem like "party chicks" who aren't appreciative of a sincere guy who wants to fall in love and have a proper relationship. They all just want to go to clubs and party and have him spend his money on them and have him dress up nice to go on their arm so they can show him off to their friends.
So basically, there are good guys out there! :) But they are hard to find because most of the time they are rushing to work for 9am, and then rushing home at 5pm, and very rarely are they hanging around in the park or in clubs or whatever, posing and picking up girls. But they exist! And you can find them, but you need to be prepared to ditch the bad guys and do yourself a favour and treat yourself to the good guys.
As for your baby situation. There are about a billion single moms now days. All you need to do is ask, and people will help. It's probably not easy, but you can do it! In fact, you know that handsome good guy I was talking about? He was raised by a single mom :) She is so cool. It's better to be raised by a good single mom, than a pair of parents who aren't good. Also this guy of yours, whether you are together or not together, or whether he is being nice or a nasty, no matter what.. he has to pay for his kid! There is no sneaking away from that. He has to do that now and the law will back you up. If he asks you for any more money, tell him where to get lost and get real and he should be giving YOU money to make yourself happy and comfortable. Because that's how you need to be.
Also, I don't know if you have any family or not, but it's very rare that someone is ever all completely alone. There is usually someone who will step up and help. A parent, a grandparent, an uncle, a cousin, a friend, etc. There are lots of good people out there who will help. And even if you don't have a relative or friend, there are places you can go to get all kinds of support these days.
The important thing is that you don't freak out, and you try to stop being upset. No man is that important to make you make you really upset. I think it might be a good idea for you to start being a little selfish now. You need to look after you, and that will help keep your little one good too.
So basically, there are good guys out there! :) But they are hard to find because most of the time they are rushing to work for 9am, and then rushing home at 5pm, and very rarely are they hanging around in the park or in clubs or whatever, posing and picking up girls. But they exist! And you can find them, but you need to be prepared to ditch the bad guys and do yourself a favour and treat yourself to the good guys.
As for your baby situation. There are about a billion single moms now days. All you need to do is ask, and people will help. It's probably not easy, but you can do it! In fact, you know that handsome good guy I was talking about? He was raised by a single mom :) She is so cool. It's better to be raised by a good single mom, than a pair of parents who aren't good. Also this guy of yours, whether you are together or not together, or whether he is being nice or a nasty, no matter what.. he has to pay for his kid! There is no sneaking away from that. He has to do that now and the law will back you up. If he asks you for any more money, tell him where to get lost and get real and he should be giving YOU money to make yourself happy and comfortable. Because that's how you need to be.
Also, I don't know if you have any family or not, but it's very rare that someone is ever all completely alone. There is usually someone who will step up and help. A parent, a grandparent, an uncle, a cousin, a friend, etc. There are lots of good people out there who will help. And even if you don't have a relative or friend, there are places you can go to get all kinds of support these days.
The important thing is that you don't freak out, and you try to stop being upset. No man is that important to make you make you really upset. I think it might be a good idea for you to start being a little selfish now. You need to look after you, and that will help keep your little one good too.
ur all a blessing...I just hope u kno that...I'm already a single 18 yr old mother of one..I just don't think i can do it by myself
sorry to butt in, i just wanted to say i'm sorry for what your going through. i know it's hard to believe but true love does exist. i've been married for 31 years and i'm still in love with my husband. try to calm down, it's not good for you or the baby. if he asks for more money tell him no. you don't deserve this. take care remar
Sometimes its hard to find a good man in this day and time. We have to look into the inside of them instead of the outside. I have learned that a good man is the sweet kind and loving ones. The handsome, goodlooking guys with attitude will stick it to you every time. There is love out there and there will be love for you again. Even if you have this beautiful child. There will be many years ahead to enjoy the unconditional love that this child will give to you. (That is real love).
Sometimes we can be cruel also. But as I tell my daughter now. There is happiness in your future. Pain goes away in time and love always returns. It always has with me.
You are going to have a wonderful life. Just wait and see
Sometimes we can be cruel also. But as I tell my daughter now. There is happiness in your future. Pain goes away in time and love always returns. It always has with me.
You are going to have a wonderful life. Just wait and see
he told me everything was going to be different this time..he promised me..and i believed him..I've done so much for him,,I just dont understand what i did to deserve this,,I just wanna scream and break everything..i'm so frustrated..why can;t he see it,,why can;t he tell his destroying me.. this isn't fair..why do ppl tose the word love around like its a freakin frizbee..nobody knows what true love is anymore..nobody believes in making something work..I gave up EVERYTHING for you! why must u put me through this.,I did nothing to anybody to deserve this.. i'm 1600.00 in debit now..all for nothing and i'm having his child..there now everybody knows..I just wish he would have told me he loved me.. nobody has a consience or feelings anymore....eww i'm so frustrated..
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