Nothing works, not even thearpy, im such a failure

[detpiston7788]

I been on anti-depressants since july and been in thearpy for like 1 month and a half. So far no sucess. Granted, i dont have panic attacks as much.. Maybe once a day if that, and im on benzos only if needed. Luckly im at the point where i dont have to take ativan everyday, so im not addicted. But, im still sad and depressed all the time. I guess im still scared of people and nothing works. Im especisally scared of women.. I still feel like the ugliest piece of garbage out there... I just feel it cause i never get approached and i have zero sucess on dating websites. I want to be happy, i really do. But nothing works.. Im still my old self. I even quit drinking for a few months, i used to drink every day the past 7 years... But improved this year, unfortunatly.. The past month, im back to drinking once or twice a week.. Im thinking about giving up the thearapist and maybe stopping meds all together..To tell you the truth, the only way for me to be happy and get ready for this... is to be an extreamly attractive guy.. If i can look so good and have women hitting on me left and right, i would be so happy.. I just need good looks.. I know it sounds silly but i just wanted to get this off my chest... Right now im sippin on wine.. i know its bad but im not a happy person..

[butterfly84777]

You need to keep your head up!!! :-) get out of this place where your so down on yourself!!!! You need to do some nice things for yourself and get your confidence back a little and women will notice that stuff...  You need to find your self worth again!!!! Everybody deserves to behappy.. Don't give up on meds and especially therapy just yet especially withe the place your in right now.. Give it a chance I would love to have someone t talk to I just don't have insurance!!! I'm jealous of ya lol :-) keep your head up!!!!!!!!

[flob]

well how long have you had depression/anxiety? if you've been on meds since july and in therapy for 1 month...thats really not nearly long enough. therapy can sometimes take months or years to have a real effect. some issues are buried so deep and integrated so closely into who we are that they take that long just to work out. obviously a major one for you is self image...and it's obviously going to take some time to work that out because no one in this forum can TELL you that you have a poor self image and actually expect you to believe it. it's not something someone else can give you...a good self image can only come from you, and because of that it will take a lot of work. i'm sure this is just one of many problems you're dealing with but didn't mention in this post....all of which take time to work through.

you say you've been on meds since july...but have you really seen no improvement at all? perhaps your meds could use adjusting. there are always options in that department. just stick with it. one thing to remember...if you really sit down and evaluate your current sitation and you find that your meds are not working, then talk to your doctor about it. meds can always be changed if needed. if you decide your therapist isn't helping...think about why that is and if you need to...there are millions of other therapists out there who might be able to help. my opinion is that confidence and self image are two issues that you might try to work on with your therapist before worrying about trying to approach dating, etc. just my thoughts though.

[Chrissy1972]

Wine is not going to make you feel any better, its a depressant. Are you a reader? I found this book by Dr Burns called The Feeling Good handbook. Its quite insightful and may help you with your self esteem & depression issues. I suffer more frm anxiety and I know when I think negatively my anxiety feeds off this.
Best of luck to you!