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Opinions about my Wife Please
We are both 35 with 2 girls 2 and 4. We are happily married for 10 years and she has nothing at all to be stressed about other than raising 2 crazy kids and normal issues with her family.
About 2 months ago she started complaining about her throat feeling like it was closing, since then the things she complains about is tired, lose of appetite, sick at her stomach, dizzy, feeling not right and not safe with the kids, and a few more things.
She has went to a Ear Nose and Throat doc with no luck.
She is saying she needs to take a day or two and be alone because of all the stress. These things are just not like her. Her eyes are always real glassy and she sleeps all the time. I have told her its anxiety but she just gets upset so i leave it alone. We have talked about it for hours and hours and I have always thought she would shake it but it is getting worse and worse. I am asking what steps I should take at this point and what type of doctor should she go she. She really doesn't trust anyone but me in life due to some family issues with her parents so its so hard for her to trust a doctor. We don't have a go family doctor for us and she only sees her gyno reguraly but want go see him about this. She mentioned a physciatrist and I am all about it but she now doesn't want to go. I am at a lost of what to do and it is effecting our relationship and our kids.
thanks for your help and god bless
About 2 months ago she started complaining about her throat feeling like it was closing, since then the things she complains about is tired, lose of appetite, sick at her stomach, dizzy, feeling not right and not safe with the kids, and a few more things.
She has went to a Ear Nose and Throat doc with no luck.
She is saying she needs to take a day or two and be alone because of all the stress. These things are just not like her. Her eyes are always real glassy and she sleeps all the time. I have told her its anxiety but she just gets upset so i leave it alone. We have talked about it for hours and hours and I have always thought she would shake it but it is getting worse and worse. I am asking what steps I should take at this point and what type of doctor should she go she. She really doesn't trust anyone but me in life due to some family issues with her parents so its so hard for her to trust a doctor. We don't have a go family doctor for us and she only sees her gyno reguraly but want go see him about this. She mentioned a physciatrist and I am all about it but she now doesn't want to go. I am at a lost of what to do and it is effecting our relationship and our kids.
thanks for your help and god bless
Wow. Well, first and foremost, sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult time!! I suffer from anxiety disorder and PTSD, and panic/anxiety attacks are hard to go though, especially with little ones around. I'm a single mother of 3 children all under the age of 6! I understand the "not safe" feeling, and for me, it isnt because I would ever dare hurt my children. Its the fear that when you're in the middle of a panic attack and what if you do pass out or something horrible happens, what will happen to the kids if you are just laid out on the floor knocked unconcious!! It is a very unsettling feeling, and until you've had a panic attack, its hard to understand. Now with that being said, im agreeing to what other have said, she needs to see a Doctor. One of my close friends Sister, was actually recently diagnosed with Post viral fatigue aka Myalgic Encephalomyelitis. And she actually went through alot of symptoms it sounds like your wife is having, including this "something is not right feeling" and not being able to shake it off. She was nauseas, and didnt want to eat, had tremors that lead to her throat feeling like it was closing, dizzy all the time, felt weak and had trouble concentrating. And symptoms actually started a few weeks after having a bad case of a cold/flu. She needs to be checked out by a Dr and Psych. My suggestion is maybe a trip to the E.R. the next time she has symptoms if it is before she can be seen by a Dr, if they believe its anxiety they'll immediatly give her a benzo of sorts (Xanax, ativan, etc) and if that calms symptoms...it is most likely anxiety. Again, I wish you the best of luck and your wife is in my prayers. And if she's saying she needs a few days...she may just need that. take care.
Your wife's symptoms are constant with a stress/anxiety condition. Her throat is probably Globus Hystericus. Not feeling safe with the children is common for anxiety but you have to determine the way she feels unsafe.
People with anxiety feel like they are going to have loss of control and act out in ways that scare them. They never do if it is only anxiety.
A good PhD psychologist is a better option than a Pdoc since most psychiatrists are no linger trained in psychodynamics - they are now drug pushers. No one with anxiety is cured with drugs and over time many get worse on them. If you intervene in the early stages of anxiety it can be stopped in a short amount of time
Get a good line if communications going and find our the details of what she is feeling....and don’t freak out and get hysterical like some posters would have you do. They have jumped to some very unfounded conclusions at this point, and you don’t want to scare your wife by pushing the emergency button.
You need an PhD anxiety specialist not the run of the mill therapist......find one that treats only anxiety. You can spend years with a garden variety therapist and not recover.
People with anxiety feel like they are going to have loss of control and act out in ways that scare them. They never do if it is only anxiety.
A good PhD psychologist is a better option than a Pdoc since most psychiatrists are no linger trained in psychodynamics - they are now drug pushers. No one with anxiety is cured with drugs and over time many get worse on them. If you intervene in the early stages of anxiety it can be stopped in a short amount of time
Get a good line if communications going and find our the details of what she is feeling....and don’t freak out and get hysterical like some posters would have you do. They have jumped to some very unfounded conclusions at this point, and you don’t want to scare your wife by pushing the emergency button.
You need an PhD anxiety specialist not the run of the mill therapist......find one that treats only anxiety. You can spend years with a garden variety therapist and not recover.
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Since this rather radical personality change became apparent just two months ago, I really have to advise you to get your wife in front of a psychiatrist for a mental eval and an internist to rule out a physical problem IMMEDIATELY. You said SHE mentioned seeing a p-doc but has now changed her mind. Somehow, and soon, you either need to get her to rethink this option or you need to get her there however the hell you can.
One thing you wrote concerning the things your wife has complained about feeling really made me sit up and get a bit edgy.
"feeling not right and not safe with the kids...."
Trying not to get all freaked out here, but what, EXACTLY, did she mean when she said she didn't feel right AND NOT SAFE WITH THE KIDS!?
I've got red flags flapping all over the place here and I think you should see them, too!
If she WILL see her Gyno without a huge scene, and if that is the ONLY doctor she will see, then get her there immediately. Her Gyno will have admission rights at a local hospital and I honestly think that's where your wife belongs, for her safety and most certainly for the safety of your children.
If you are the only one your wife trusts, fine. Stay by her side throughout whatever has to happen here, but something does. I think your wife is in a crisis of some sort and sadly, the other option I'm thinking is she has gotten herself into trouble with some kind of drug. And no, I am not accusing your wife of being a meth head, I'm thinking if she had a pain or anxiety prescription, if she was feeling overwhelmed, they might have helped her cope for awhile until she couldn't do without them.
I feel like I'm scaring the daylights out of you, but right now I also would not feel comfortable leaving the kids alone with her. If she's not feeling right and not feeling safe with the kids, I know if it was me, I'd get my kids as far away from her as possible. I'm sorry how that sounds, but protecting your babies should be your number on priority right now. And I pray to God I'm wrong.
If you have family, friends or members of your church to reach out to, NOW is the time to do that.
I wish you the strength, courage, faith and love to get through this.
Peace
Greenlydia
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Since this rather radical personality change became apparent just two months ago, I really have to advise you to get your wife in front of a psychiatrist for a mental eval and an internist to rule out a physical problem IMMEDIATELY. You said SHE mentioned seeing a p-doc but has now changed her mind. Somehow, and soon, you either need to get her to rethink this option or you need to get her there however the hell you can.
One thing you wrote concerning the things your wife has complained about feeling really made me sit up and get a bit edgy.
"feeling not right and not safe with the kids...."
Trying not to get all freaked out here, but what, EXACTLY, did she mean when she said she didn't feel right AND NOT SAFE WITH THE KIDS!?
I've got red flags flapping all over the place here and I think you should see them, too!
If she WILL see her Gyno without a huge scene, and if that is the ONLY doctor she will see, then get her there immediately. Her Gyno will have admission rights at a local hospital and I honestly think that's where your wife belongs, for her safety and most certainly for the safety of your children.
If you are the only one your wife trusts, fine. Stay by her side throughout whatever has to happen here, but something does. I think your wife is in a crisis of some sort and sadly, the other option I'm thinking is she has gotten herself into trouble with some kind of drug. And no, I am not accusing your wife of being a meth head, I'm thinking if she had a pain or anxiety prescription, if she was feeling overwhelmed, they might have helped her cope for awhile until she couldn't do without them.
I feel like I'm scaring the daylights out of you, but right now I also would not feel comfortable leaving the kids alone with her. If she's not feeling right and not feeling safe with the kids, I know if it was me, I'd get my kids as far away from her as possible. I'm sorry how that sounds, but protecting your babies should be your number on priority right now. And I pray to God I'm wrong.
If you have family, friends or members of your church to reach out to, NOW is the time to do that.
I wish you the strength, courage, faith and love to get through this.
Peace
Greenlydia
Since this rather radical personality change became apparent just two months ago, I really have to advise you to get your wife in front of a psychiatrist for a mental eval and an internist to rule out a physical problem IMMEDIATELY. You said SHE mentioned seeing a p-doc but has now changed her mind. Somehow, and soon, you either need to get her to rethink this option or you need to get her there however the hell you can.
One thing you wrote concerning the things your wife has complained about feeling really made me sit up and get a bit edgy.
"feeling not right and not safe with the kids...."
Trying not to get all freaked out here, but what, EXACTLY, did she mean when she said she didn't feel right AND NOT SAFE WITH THE KIDS!?
I've got red flags flapping all over the place here and I think you should see them, too!
If she WILL see her Gyno without a huge scene, and if that is the ONLY doctor she will see, then get her there immediately. Her Gyno will have admission rights at a local hospital and I honestly think that's where your wife belongs, for her safety and most certainly for the safety of your children.
If you are the only one your wife trusts, fine. Stay by her side throughout whatever has to happen here, but something does. I think your wife is in a crisis of some sort and sadly, the other option I'm thinking is she has gotten herself into trouble with some kind of drug. And no, I am not accusing your wife of being a meth head, I'm thinking if she had a pain or anxiety prescription, if she was feeling overwhelmed, they might have helped her cope for awhile until she couldn't do without them.
I feel like I'm scaring the daylights out of you, but right now I also would not feel comfortable leaving the kids alone with her. If she's not feeling right and not feeling safe with the kids, I know if it was me, I'd get my kids as far away from her as possible. I'm sorry how that sounds, but protecting your babies should be your number on priority right now. And I pray to God I'm wrong.
If you have family, friends or members of your church to reach out to, NOW is the time to do that.
I wish you the strength, courage, faith and love to get through this.
Peace
Greenlydia
The list of symptoms your wife is exhibiting incluess
1) The sensation her throat is closing
2) Always being tired
3) Loss of appetite
4) Sick to her stomach
5) Dizziness
6) Not feeling "right"
7) Not feeling "safe" around the children
8) Eyes that are "always" glassy
9) Sleeps all the time
10) "And a few more things." (Your words)
One thing you wrote concerning the things your wife has complained about feeling really made me sit up and get a bit edgy.
"feeling not right and not safe with the kids...."
Trying not to get all freaked out here, but what, EXACTLY, did she mean when she said she didn't feel right AND NOT SAFE WITH THE KIDS!?
I've got red flags flapping all over the place here and I think you should see them, too!
If she WILL see her Gyno without a huge scene, and if that is the ONLY doctor she will see, then get her there immediately. Her Gyno will have admission rights at a local hospital and I honestly think that's where your wife belongs, for her safety and most certainly for the safety of your children.
If you are the only one your wife trusts, fine. Stay by her side throughout whatever has to happen here, but something does. I think your wife is in a crisis of some sort and sadly, the other option I'm thinking is she has gotten herself into trouble with some kind of drug. And no, I am not accusing your wife of being a meth head, I'm thinking if she had a pain or anxiety prescription, if she was feeling overwhelmed, they might have helped her cope for awhile until she couldn't do without them.
I feel like I'm scaring the daylights out of you, but right now I also would not feel comfortable leaving the kids alone with her. If she's not feeling right and not feeling safe with the kids, I know if it was me, I'd get my kids as far away from her as possible. I'm sorry how that sounds, but protecting your babies should be your number on priority right now. And I pray to God I'm wrong.
If you have family, friends or members of your church to reach out to, NOW is the time to do that.
I wish you the strength, courage, faith and love to get through this.
Peace
Greenlydia
The list of symptoms your wife is exhibiting incluess
1) The sensation her throat is closing
2) Always being tired
3) Loss of appetite
4) Sick to her stomach
5) Dizziness
6) Not feeling "right"
7) Not feeling "safe" around the children
8) Eyes that are "always" glassy
9) Sleeps all the time
10) "And a few more things." (Your words)
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