Social and dating anxiety

I'm a 19 year old who hasn't been in a serious relationship, still a virgin, and extremely scared to meet new people. I have no trouble talking to people online but when they finally want to meet and i have the oportunity to date my heart starts racing so much my chest hurts, i want to cry, i start shaking, my mind races with everything that is going to go wrong if i agree to meet this person. Im terrified im going to put myself in a awkward situation and ill be judged and made fun of. I don't have a problem being around the people im comfortable with, but when others want to get to know me and ask me to hang out i always say no or find an excuse and im starting to see im socially isolating myself.
I really want to get over this because its gotten worse this past year. Even making eye contact with someone gets my heart pounding. I found someone i really like and he wants to meet but i cant bring myself to actually do it.
What should i do?

[stacy197832]

First let me congratulate you on being a 19 year old virgin. Most girls your age have NO respect for themselves at all. I think there is some reason your so antisocial but i do believe it is because you have a fear of rejection and not being accepted. You have got to understand one thing, before anyone else can accept you, you have to learn to accept yourself. You have to know your worth. Dont go through life believing that everyone you meet is going to like you because i'm one of billions who will tell you that will never happen. Im not sure if what im about to tell you is the best advice but its all i can think of that might help you out, since you chat with people online, maybe find someone from another country, start chatting, once you feel more comfortable try telephone conversations or using the mic on your computer. When you feel more comfortable try using a webcam in order to just see each other. This way if things dont work out smoothly delete their A**. You've lost nothing and you will never ever have to worry about bumping into them at the supermarket. Maybe this will build your self-esteem. If i am not being too nosey... Do you feel there is something wrong with yourself that others will constantly reject you for ?

[HellBurst]

Hi stacy, thanks for the comment i found a lot of the things you said to be really helpful. I'm not sure why i feel like i will be rejected if i put myself in a social situation. Im just terrified that people will laugh or judge me if i do something wrong around them. Im extremely terrified of getting laughed at because i did something wrong or unexperienced with a guy. I don't want to be judge or given a bad label.
This all could be from friendships i had early on in highschool, i hung out with a bad crowd but didnt fit in with there kind. So older guys always tried to take advantage of me i didnt know what i was doing because i was 12-14 at the time. These 'friends' of mine would also make fun of me if i said something they didnt agree with, or would exclude me if i wasn't in a perfect mood around them. I was always scared to labeled like them because everyone called them sluts and skanks cause they were really sexually active so i think i avoid sexual encounters still cause i always think im going to get a label like that too.
This is all really tearing up my life lately, it's gotten worse for me in the past 4 months, idk if i should see a doctor or slowly build my confident up some how.

[stacy197832]

Just learn to love who you are, no matter if other people think its cool or not. This is the time in your life when you are supposed to be finding yourself, figuring who you REALLY are, and what you want to do with your life. Ten years from now you probably wont even know or remember half of those people anyway. Dont let what they think hold u back in life, or you will end up like them on a road to nowhere. If you ever need me just message me, ive been in your shoes.