Stress - anxiety

I had a great life and my wife is a stay home mom. Recently i bought a home based business for my wife to start doing some activity. She will do marketing and accounts and i will help everything else to publish a magazine.

We spent a great deal making sure that the business is running and money syream is there to pay off the loan.

Little i expect the amount of work i need to take on to publish this magazine. Since day 1 after paying LARGE amount of money i got ao stressed out. I still have a full time job and left me little tome to actually do this side job after looking after 2 children too.

I felt like being strangled by the neck, throwing up once a day, stiff shoulder and heart race. Everything we thought about growing the business and good ideas we have on it suddenly down the drain. I felt like jumping off bridge sometimes.

I have over committed and this stress didnt help me feeling strong to do a lot of work in the evening. I need to know how to handle this type of stress

Thank you
C

[mammo]

You are overwhelmed and even though you spent a lot of money to start this home based business, you need to decide if it is worth all this.  Can your wife do more to help out? Can you afford to hire someone do so some of the smaller tasks to free up your time as well as your wife's?  We own a business and it takes a lot of time and energy, and you will put in long hours to get, and keep it successful. You have two children as well, so I think if this isn't something your wife can handle with minimal help from you, then you may want to reconsider having this business.  You don't want your health and children to go by the wayside while you persue this.  Make sure your business is well organized, and prioritize the work. If there are things that can wait until the weekend, then do it then.  By working a full time job and then coming home and trying to care for the kids and work another job can be too much.  If it is running smoothly and you have a decent income from it, then it's time to hire someone to help out.  This is not worth your health!  There are well qualified people looking for work, as well as stay at home moms who are looking for part-time work.  Your wife could teach them how to do a lot of her work and allow her to take over most of your responsibilities.  I think this is the only way to make this work as your are stretched too thin, and it's affecting your health.  This is supposed to be her business, maybe she has a friend that would want to make some extra money and help out. Decide if any part of this business can be sub-contracted to an outside company and not cost you a lot of money.  I know it's difficult, and the fact that you have invested a lot of money makes it even worse.  But your health and children come first, and you have to decide if this is worth what you're going thru.  It can be done, you could get up earlier and work before going off to your other job, so your evenings are free.  You can work on weekends around your children's activities and needs.  It doable but not without sacrifice, with the biggest being your children.  You are but one person, and can only do so much, don't put this pressure on yourself to be superman!  You may even want to think about hiring a neighborhood teenager to do some filing, simple tasks that are time consuming for you and your wife.  Anything that frees up some of your time to do the more important tasks. I wish you all the best, and take care.

[Cloud68]

Thank you so much for your response and those things are exactly what I am doing right now. Delegating and outsourcing. It cost  bit of money of course but I just can't do it all by myself. I am planning to keep the business for one year and then try to sell it even i will make a little loss I will still consider it. Maybe it also a big part of being an entrepreneur which I haven't accustomed to. Being organize and hitting deadlines on a large scale.

Apart from that I still find it difficult managing my stress level and just recently I felt like I discovered the true problem, I haven't and I couldn't spend time on the actual business because of my full time job. I got staff from previous owner but i hardly could get any training from them because I'm working during the day!!!!