What can I do?

My 9 year old daughter has suffered from button phobia since birth, she has never slept for more than 4 hours in the last 9 years, preferring to scream the house down every night, she suffers severe anxiety and has to have a strict routine, eg, if we don't leave for school on the dot of 8.30am she throws a tantrum, she watches tv on full blast but still complains we are breathing too loud and she can't concentrate on the tv, she won't wear underwear as she can't stand the feeling against her skin and she is downright rude to people. The thing is, she is highly intelligent and apart from a few small incidents at school the teachers said she has no problems in school and is a model pupil. Our GP diagnosed severe anxiety disorder but we are on a waiting list for a child psych. which is 12 months long but as she has no problems in school, she is not classed as urgent. The house is a very tense place when she is here as she has tantrums approx every hour - going from laughing to a fierce temper then back to laughing constantly, we've tried everything, rewards, charts, denying treats, ignoring her, distraction but I've now got stomach ulcers due to the stress and my husband and I are at the end of our tether. Please help

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id say if you cant get the help you need, like a child psych, at least get help while you wait,  maybe a family therapist, at least get the ball rolling.