I am a 19-year old girl and I have been through a lot of rejection in my life and it has left me utterly traumatised. I was bullied so badly at school that I dropped out when I was just 15-years old and I never even got to sit my GCSEs. When I was 15 my 40-year old half-brother used to have sex with me and my mum told me to tell the police that he raped me, which I did. The following day I dropped the charges and I haven't seen him since. Even though my half-brother treated me less than the dust on the Earth I still love him, I am obsessed with him and I think about him everyday and I am utterly heartbroken. Then last year, I ended up getting bullied on Facebook by my half-brother's in-laws (they're aware that we fell out but they don't know that he used to have sex with me at 15). They would call me fat, ugly, a ****, a tosser and I don't forget any of them words. I believe them. I think about them everyday and I don't think that I can ever forget them. Because I dropped out of school so young I lost the very few friends that I did have as I developed social anxiety, obviously because of the bullying.
The anxiety, flashbacks, panic attacks and painful memories of all that I've been through have affected me so much that I even dropped out of my College course earlier this year because no matter how hard I tried I just couldn't concentrate and do the work properly there.
My course was Level 1 in Catering. I had dreams of becoming a chef but I didn't enjoy the course at all and I thought that this might be because catering wasn't for me but I know that even if I were doing a Hairdressing course, Beauty therapy course, etc. I still wouldn't concentrate and focus properly because of the horrible flashbacks that I keep experiencing everyday. How do I make them go away?
My tutor told me that she thought that I wasn't ready for any course. She told me that I had to sort my head out before I could start any College course and reach for any qualifications.
She told me that I should go home and write down in a notepad when I was happy and what happened to trigger my unhappiness. She said that there's demons inside me and there is! I have done this, I know what has triggered my unhappiness but it doesn't stop me from feeling unhappy. I understand why I am unhappy, I know what is triggering it but it makes no difference at all. I am so lonely, confused, lost, hopeless, helpless and scared. I'm a nervous wreck. I let everyone walk all over me because the bullying completely wrecked my confidence and self-esteem. I believe every word that they said about me. What do I do? :(
I have just come off anti-depressants (I was on 20mg Citilopram, for 3 and a half months) and I have just started taking 5HTP (400mg daily, one 200mg capsule in the morning and one just before bed). I have only started taking the 5HTP for two days and I can't really say if they're working or if they're better than the anti-depressants. The anti-depressants did work but I don't want to be on anti-depressants all my life and they made me gain weight and become very lazy and unmotivated. I would rather try herbals because they are healthier and have less side effects so I really want to persist with these.
What about St John's Wort? Do they work? Are they good? Can I take them with 5HTP and if so what is the best brand? I know I could do with therapy but it costs a lot of money and I am currently unemployed and my head is so messed up at the moment that I don't think that I am able to even work. I just wish that my head was completely sorted and that I was happy inside so that I can carry out daily tasks, cope with whatever obstacles and challenges may come my way, set my goals and reach for their achievement everyday.
Everyday is like a survival. I don't even feel like I am living a life. I feel like I am living in a prison, not just when I'm alone crying in my room but also when I am out, going to the cinema and shopping with my best friend, etc. There's no light or happiness inside me at all. I want to take control of my life and my future. How do I take back control?