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Why does one thing ruin my day?
So i have three boys and my youngest is only four weeks old. Yesterday my tem year old stepped on a piece to my breast pump and it broke, I was livid because my newborn only drinks milk from a bottle. So I ordered a new piece online and they said one day delivery order now get it tomorrow, I ordered it expecting to get it today. When I woke up this morning I checked the status and it said it wont be here till tomorrow, so Ive been crying for an hour now and I feel like the entire day is ruined I am stressed out because now I know Im going to be tired all day from the amount of time it takes to hand pump every two hours and I feel like my youngest isnt getting the same care as my last kid cause hes going to have to get formula, and hes had so mich formula already, and I feel like a failure and I just want to stay in bed all day and I cant talk to my husband cause he doesnt get why something so small drives me so crazy. And Im trying not to ***** about it but it is litteraly driving me crazy that I cant pump until tomorrow. And ill have to start all over again pumping every two hours and Im stressed over how tired thats going to make me and ill be home alone cause my oldest is going to camp and my husband goes back to work tomorrow and it is actually making me tired just thinking about it. Is this anxiety or postpartum cause I feel so crazy.
I think it's smart to talk to the doc, and to arrange some respite care for you. Tough gig, taking care of a baby and a kid. The continual crying and stress is a sign that you are exhausted. Can't your mom or some other friend or relative come just so you can get a little sleep?
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One other thing you could do, if you are down to needing to hand express, is enlist your baby just this time to help you drain those full boobs. Babies are very efficient once they get the latch. (Look up videos online about how to do that, or the nursing can hurt from an inadequate latch.) I did pump when I was nursing, but liked it best when my son did all the work. He was very efficient at sucking.
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Good luck. See what you can do about getting a female relative in, and do see your doc. It sounds like post-partum is kicking in along with the exhaustion.
Is this something that happens to you regularly in your life, or only now since the recent birth?
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Small stuff always messes with me but before i would just sit down in a room by myself and pull it together or i would do some cardio. But since the baby i cant even explain how i feel I just want to rip my brain out because my thoughts exhaust me and make me so upset i cant regain my composure.
I asked because if this was new it would almost certainly be hormonal. Given it's not new but quite a lot more severe, it's still probably a combination of hormones and exhaustion and your patterns of thinking. When you get some time -- I know, when will that be? -- if you haven't tried it yet meditation sounds like it would be very helpful to you along with getting back to exercising.
Hey, ,motherhood is a hard gig. I get it! I've been there and have days I'm still there even though my kids are older. On a quick fix for your breast pump problem, places like target and Walmart sell hand held, cheapy pumps you could use in the interim. I had one as back up to my monster pump as I called it. Having a happy baby who is fed is like a deal breaker for a good day. But knowing kids make mistakes . . . it happens. And I have to say . . . the pump WAS on the floor for him to step on. I stepped on my own glasses yesterday and broke them. I was like GRRRRR. But then again, it was I who had left them on the floor. Oh well. Stuff happens. But when you are sleep deprived and something is important, we can overreact.
Get one of those cheap pumps that DO take a longer time to express the milk. You can hand express too. I know when I was nursing, it didn't take much to get that milk flowing and releasing it was essential! But the cheap pump was a life saver.
I don't think this is really a small thing. You'd like to feed your baby. lol That's pretty huge when his and your day depends on it and when a routine that is hard to come by that you are establishing with a newborn is disrupted, it's like panic city. I remember when my babies would change their routine on their own (as they all do, you get used to a routine and then they sleep less, eat more, etc. and it's like HEY!)--- I'd stress each time trying to re establish our new normal.
You are recovering from having a baby. Have other kids to tend to. Hormones are normalizing. It's all a lot. Cut yourself some slack for the emotion. And maybe give dad a chance to be on kid duty while you spend a little YOU time to recharge your batteries. A couple hours to just not be in charge feels wonderful to a busy mom!!!
And if this continues, do talk to your doctor about it! Anxiety post partum is real. Is it of a clinical level they want to treat? I don't know. I had a fantastic and really in tune OB. She talked to me about how I was feeling and made it clear that if I was struggling daily, that anxiety was treatable and she would help. She had kids close together herself (my ob) and told me how when she woke up for the fourth day in her bathrobe never having dressed feeling like she might lose her mind, she reached out and her doctor started her on an SSRI. :>) She made me feel normal for what I was going through and you are normal for what you are going through too! I promise. So, ob's today are quite savvy with regards to women and what goes on emotionally and psychologically due to hormones and stress post baby. Do you have your recheck coming up in a couple of weeks? Usually it is at 6 weeks. I'd keep track of how you feel and see if this is just a bad day or if it is most days until then. That info will give you an idea of your next step. But bad days in general do happen at this phase in life. I now have two young teenage boys. My stress level is now on a new level. Ha.
Hang in there and keep in touch. We are here to chat any time!
Get one of those cheap pumps that DO take a longer time to express the milk. You can hand express too. I know when I was nursing, it didn't take much to get that milk flowing and releasing it was essential! But the cheap pump was a life saver.
I don't think this is really a small thing. You'd like to feed your baby. lol That's pretty huge when his and your day depends on it and when a routine that is hard to come by that you are establishing with a newborn is disrupted, it's like panic city. I remember when my babies would change their routine on their own (as they all do, you get used to a routine and then they sleep less, eat more, etc. and it's like HEY!)--- I'd stress each time trying to re establish our new normal.
You are recovering from having a baby. Have other kids to tend to. Hormones are normalizing. It's all a lot. Cut yourself some slack for the emotion. And maybe give dad a chance to be on kid duty while you spend a little YOU time to recharge your batteries. A couple hours to just not be in charge feels wonderful to a busy mom!!!
And if this continues, do talk to your doctor about it! Anxiety post partum is real. Is it of a clinical level they want to treat? I don't know. I had a fantastic and really in tune OB. She talked to me about how I was feeling and made it clear that if I was struggling daily, that anxiety was treatable and she would help. She had kids close together herself (my ob) and told me how when she woke up for the fourth day in her bathrobe never having dressed feeling like she might lose her mind, she reached out and her doctor started her on an SSRI. :>) She made me feel normal for what I was going through and you are normal for what you are going through too! I promise. So, ob's today are quite savvy with regards to women and what goes on emotionally and psychologically due to hormones and stress post baby. Do you have your recheck coming up in a couple of weeks? Usually it is at 6 weeks. I'd keep track of how you feel and see if this is just a bad day or if it is most days until then. That info will give you an idea of your next step. But bad days in general do happen at this phase in life. I now have two young teenage boys. My stress level is now on a new level. Ha.
Hang in there and keep in touch. We are here to chat any time!
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