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guilt is eating me alive

Hi everyone,

I made very bad mistakeswhen I was younger and had just married....I visited some prostitutes, now I stopped completely for a year I don't even watch porn now...I've realized my mistake and will never do it again.

However guilt doesn't lete live, it ***** up my thoughts and emotions and I can't see my wife to the eyes,

Do you have any suggestions on how to get passed this?

Thanks
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Wow...I didn't look at it that way,

Thanks birdie, I feel like giving life a second chance :)
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Yes, move on and be happy and don't dream up problems that don't exist.

Another important point is you must love yourself instead of currently trying to find a way to hurt yourself - you can't love others if you don't love yourself. Many people today (not just you) are too hard on themselves because they don't want to love their own self, so the effect is they end up wasting time focusing on negative things about themselves. Be responsible toward your wife by stopping the self-centered focus on feeling sorry for yourself so you can have more time to spend on her - and others.
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Thank u all for your kind words,

This morning I feel much better. Im 25, I guess in 10 years I won't even remember about this? All I have to be is keep being strong,

Thanks again god bless you.
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To which I might add, there is no past that you can live in, only the present so live right in the present right now and you will be at peace with yourself.
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I would never tell her. Likely you will just ruin her day and perhaps permanently - resolve it on your own is the best way because she had nothing to do with it. You are married to her so don't drag her into it and hurt her when you tell us today you don't even do it now.
Don't you think she will have more problems dealing with it than you do - think about the fact that you aren't even doing it anymore so YOU know in your heart that you want only her but she on the other hand will have to deal with you hiding it and SHE might wonder if your intentions now are good.
You tested which was the noble thing to do afterwards, so clap yourself on the back and move forward in life.
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How did you overcome the guilt?
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Should I telly wife about my past addiction? I've tested negative for everything and I'm clean....what Di you think?

Thank you for taking the time to reply to me, its been a year now like this and since I stopped.
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I've been down this road things are never as bad as they seem your here fore the future not the past
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Stop living in the past everyone makes mistakes or do things there not proud of just gotta leave it behind u and think about the future Sorry to be blunt
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PS: I've been also considering suicide....any help I'll appreciate it
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