having a bad day

[tke5768]

hello all. I am having a bad day. I am having so much anxiety. I went to couseling today. We talked about how I am so afraid of mt mother dying, and I am an only child with no other family here, and I am so afraid that I wont be able to handle her death. I am filled with fear. I am sitting here tonight feeling like I am going to have a panic attack at any time. My counselor says that I am bringing everything to the surface that is why my anxiety is soo bad. I certainly hope that cognative therapy helps, as I feel like my options are so limited. Thanks for listening.

[Raine9]

Losing a parent or someone close to you is never an easy thing.  My father died when I was 17.  He died of a slow and painful death from cancer.  It wasn't easy.  I would cry in the middle of the night.  After awhile, though, things did get better.  That was many years ago.  The way he died is still very fresh in my mind and will always be but I try not to think about it.  If you are religious, turn to your faith.  You need to somehow focus on something more positive so you won't have a panic attack.  When you watch TV, don't watch anything sad or negative.  That always screws me up.  If you don't mind me asking, is your mother sick right now or is this just a fear you have?  

[bip]

Im sorry to here you are having a rough time. My dad died when I was 21 years old. and I didn't take it well. It been 13 yrs now and Im still not over it. Im seeing a councelor now and it helps me alot. I get my up and downs. You aare on the right track seeing a councelor I think that will help you. It's helping me. I hope things get better with you.

[tke5768]

Hello, to answer you rquestions bib, my mother has not seen a doctor since I was born. She was 30. Now she is 63. She is having a hard time breathing, with wheezing, and she will not go to the doctor. I am watching her suffer all the time. The breathing thing has always been an anxiety thing for me though. She used to smoke alot.he quit 10 yrs ago. I also started smoking when I was 12, and quit when I attained ashtma at the age of 26. I havnt smoked since Nov 2001. I of course have the fear I will get lung cancer. I would love to not think about her dying, however I will be doing something having fun. All of a sudden just overwhelming thoughts run through my head. If I try to supress them it gets way worse. My couselor says Its ok to be scared of this maybe I need to feel the fear, as I have always been supressing them, and I need to talk about it. Get it all out. Sorry Im rammbling so much I guess I just have alot to say.. Thanks alot guys. I hope I can help you whnever you need something. cause just by you replying back and listening to me It truly helps

[bip]

Im sure it's hard  for you. My dad had a sudden massive heart attack. I talk to him 2 hours before he died he told me he was going to come during the weekend to see me and he died. It was a shocking to me. This is when my anxiety started.  It been 13 yrs but Im very sad what happen .  I always have fear something will happen to me and not be there for my 2 boyz.  It's hard when someone is close to you and something happens to them. I see councelors and it really helps me out alot. My councelor thinks I got trauma from my dad death.  I have to keep myself busy so I will not think about it. I really think Im doing better but not completely. Thanks for listening to me I feel better when I let it out. We are all here for you and this forum is awesome!!!

best wishes!!!!

[suzi-q]

I always lived with the terrible fear of my parents dying...I could never imagine life without them...they were my best friends and my greatest fans!  However, the inevitalbe happened to them quite suddenly..my dad from a massive heart attack and my mom four months after him (blood disorder).  I never thought I would get over it...and you never "get over" it, but you learn to deal with it and move forward.  It takes lots of time.....

But, I would like to tell you a big regret I do have...and that is while they were living, I should have laughed more with them, spent more time with them and enjoyed their life more, instead of always fearing what will life be like without them..Enjoy your mom...she is here...try to get her to a doctor just to check her ailments...her wheezing doesn't mean a death sentence...Spend time with her, laugh with her, share stories....so there won't be any regrets.....and then, someday....hopefully 100 years from now, God will get you through it.