I'm completely the same way, just not with horror movies. I can't stop thinking about my girlfriend. She's only 17 and I took her virginity, which scares me because I know she'll eventually want something else (nobody wants to just have sex with one person ever). All the time I spend with her now is consumed in a pervasive fear that I won't be able to keep her forever, which is ruining every potentially good experience I might have with her now, while I do actually have her. She's shown no indication of thinking this way, and we've even talked about it, but I can't ******* get it out of my head. I'm worried, at this point, that I'm going to waste all the quality time I have with her being apprehensive of when I lose her. I know it's a cycle of thought I'll regret having later on, and part of the cycle of thought is a fear in having that thought in the first place. It's like a fear of having that fear, which is just self-reinforcing. It's now at the state where it consumes my entire life, not just time spent with her. I don't know what to do, and I know I can't talk to her about it too much, because it's not like she's going to be able to assuage a concern about what might happen in three years. Help!
let me add: research is showing the same healthy and stress reducing results from just laughing on purpose with no reason at all to real laughter!
Mostly i think because doing it on purpose (especially around or with others) usually ends up with uncontrollable "real" laughing! Try it and see. You can hardly keep yourself from the real thing!
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i have a trick i use that you might like to try. Imagine a glass full of water and it is muddy and full of dirt too. All cloudy. Kinda like your mind full of those dark thoughts ok? We want clear water to drink----like we want our mind to clear of those thoughts.
If we can just let the water sit after a while it will clear----but with the anxiety that is not possible---to be still? Ha! Not likely. But we can get busy generating positive or "clear" thoughts. On purpose. Like pouring clean water into the glass---just doing that will soon clear it up. So even with those "scary" thoughts looming in the background----you are reading or watching or talking or just thinking only peaceful type thoughts. A bunch of 'em. One right after the other. For me---easiest is to watch a funny movie! if necessary----a bunch of 'em.
So get some popcorn and have a positive movie festival or laugh-yoga or comedy club. Be creative. And one day hon----hell maybe one hour---you will be fine.
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I too have this fear , hate it its not fun!!!
Just know It's not real and that should make you feel better, after all how could you have watched the movie without all those cameras and directors and make up artists on set? It's just a movie with no relevance to real life
this is total anxiety! I have really bad panic attacks and anxiety and I watched the exiorcist and I was having horrible anxiety and start to feel like i was going crazy and thought oh no what if i am having the same thing as the girl in the movie. And I was also prrssured in to watching the movie.
My suggestion comes from my experiences with anxiety. I would find some one you can talk to and get all the thoughts out into the open. I normally find some who doesn't mind if I rant on and on for hours on one subject. Praying also helps but I know some people don't believe in that so do what's most comfortable to you.